Digging Up Graves

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Re: Digging Up Graves

@PyariCgudia

Is it ethical to directly (telling/asking the rishta) or indirectly (w/o letting the prospective rishta know) that you’d like to find the prior spouse they were married to (their ex), and talk to them and their family?

Isn’t this an important thing to do when you’re entertaining rishta with a divorcee?

Awesome thread.

I am divorced. My ex is still in the same city and I see him around all the time. If someone were to ask to speak to him…I’d be annoyed. I’d be irritated because I’ve worked very hard to erase that part of my life…to move on. Yet here we are again… I’d say no. I have no children with my ex, no rishta with him anymore, he is a stranger to me now. The past is the past and I am going to leave it there whether a new guy likes it or not.

The other thing is PCG…what am I expecting to hear if I spoke to a guy’s ex? Things like “yeah he’s a real catch…I’d totally marry him again”.