Communication is the key to solve all your problems girl :), please dont become introvert as you wont be able to see things clearly... Love yourself the most to get out of depression, do things that you desire in life to help you realize how beautiful you are/how wonderful life is than following ALL your husband's demands. You'll be out of depression with a blink of an eye if you make your mind positive BECAUSE YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE, DONT WASTE IT BEING ALL SHATTERED AND DEPRESS. It is necessary to have a social network of friends to cherish good/bad times with. Socializing is a relatively big part of your life that your missing on so please work on yourself. In terms of controlling husband, please talk to him sweetly about the issue to resolve this matter. Get back to us and tell us what he has to say about his ridiculously protective/controlling behavior? YOUR NOT HIS SLAVE, YOUR HIS WIFE!!!
As some of u may be aware, im married and have a child. I am very depressed over certain issues in my relationship. My husband has this controlling aspect to him and after being with him for nearly 10 years, im starting to lose my own personality.
I lost my father in very difficult circumstances and i am still dealing with the loss, so im starting to feel very depressed, like in a trance all day. i cant release myself from this. im am completely lost without my dad and i dont have anyone that i can honestly and openly speak to. and this has in return started to affect my health. i have lost alot of weight and i am starting to go into depression. i dont like talking to my family becasue the loss has hit them hard aswell and all i end up doing is being their shoulder to cry on.
back to my first issue, so im down as it is, and my husband has an issue with what i wear (so on my way back from work i put another longer jacket on to cover myself up) although im covered enough anyway, or if i go into a shop and he is waiting outside, i will be running around like a headless chicken cos if i take a little too long he becomes awkward with me and the whole day is ruined. What really got me down was i had to stay at work a little late, big job i had to do, and i called him and he made it so awkward for me i ended up walking out of work. instead of sayin ok deal with it and we'll talk when i get home, he said go and hand ur notice in. i was so sickened that he made the stress so much worse that i walked out of work.
Normally i just get on with it, to avoid awkwardness, but last nite i completly lost all respect for him. i have so much to deal with and he adds to the stress. Today i am still fuming, but more than that i feel like im going into a black hole.
how can i deal with all the problems and refrain myself from going into a hole. im so sick of everything
You seem to be suffering from serious depression.
You need treatment as it is said before.
Your husband may have some issues but your depression (from sad loss of your father ILWIR) may be making you exaggerating some situations.
I have spoken to my hubby on the weekend and i basically let it all out. he understood and first gave me a fob off, but i stuck with my guns and explained that im going through enough at the moment and cany deal with his controlling behaviour. He said he will try to make a change inshallah.
im just gona wait and see what happens now.
Also, i am an independant woman, work, have my own money. I am not a shy timide person, maybe my thread portrayed that. however, no matter how extrovert a girl may be, everything needs to get toned down a nob or two once u get married and thats what i did. its more since the loss of my dad that i have become more self absorbing in my depression hole and i need to pull out of it.
i know that some of the issues at home are made worse due to me being depressed, i need to snap out of it.