OK we all loves our children more than anything in this world …there is no question about it ! But I am sure we all must have gone through a time where we have felt that parenting is so difficult. Mine was definitely the time Guriya was born because it required 100 times more efforts to take care of a premie and then her colic crying during night. With work that was the most difficult time of my life .
Please share yours too 
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Parenting is not easy but it does gets easier with time as you learn.
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^ True Saadia !
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im sorry.. but i beg to differ.. it gets harder with time...
i woudl take a newborn midget compared to a 2 yr old one cuz it seemed easier even though he suffered from acid reflux and day and nights were full of vomit.
why i say this is cuz... as they grow older.. the problems get more difficult and then society comes into play as does teh environment
an example taht has really shaken me a bit and cursed my man for living in a non muslim country:
having started daycare, son's diaper is changed infront of otehr kids taht are having teh same done to them... having taught our kid sharam from an early age... he cried non stop and asked for an explanation to this violation by a stranger (his teacher)... infront of his peers... not only that.. there was no washing of hands which is a far off thing... but even the privates were left as is after sitting on the potty, a diaper slapped on right afterwards.. his cries of haath tho dhula do and saaf nahi kara (meaning his bottom) were met with smiles and wows but still.. nothign was done.
nwo try explaining why things are done differently at home and at daycare to a 2 yr old.. i tried my best but god even to me i sounded pathetic. the effort i had put into teaching my child hygiene and sharam are going down teh drain everyday by the looks of it.. its depressing, and that was the first day i realized how hard my life is yet to become, raising a good muslim in a country that teaches one to be teh very opp (there are western countries, and then there are the nordic countries that put even canada us uk to shame in regards to ones body exposure).
so i can definately say... parenting only gets tougher as your child grows older.
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^ Khawa - right now the biggest problem I have with parenting Guriya is feeding her. She loves milk so much that she avoids food just to have 1 more bottle of milk. I have tried literally every food possible on her but there are only 3-4 items that she eats which includes semolina , kichdi , cerelac and some fruits. I have tried to give egg to her in so many different forms but she won't eat but when she was less than a year old she used to eat almost whole egg everyday plus bananas now she won't even touch banana.
I can see guriya facing the same problem in her pre-school because she will starting her school in a year or less now and most probably she will go in a diaper too I can forsee these and some other problems. I know how you must be feeling .....it's difficult for sure.
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Khawa...thats a tough one...How is your son coping with daycare otherwise...??
Not being able to BF at or around 5 months was frustrating,for me....she just started to refuse it and would readily take a bottle.
Now these days meal times are another thing...there are days when she will only have milk,nothing else...I try not to give her a lot of milk so that she is hungry enough to eat something but it does not work....:(
I am scared of toilet training as well...I have no clue how I will do that and I think that will be tough...!
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khawteen, in the KG where my daughter goes to they allways took a great care of hygene, like allways washing hands after using the bathroom, now I never had to put my daughter in a potty, she want straight to a toilet and then afterwards was told to clean hands.
Of course kids so young don’t notice the nudity as we adults do, I know that sometimes kids have to change as they get dirty or have a bit of water fun in the garden, it bothers me too that they don’t seperate boys and girls but thats how this culture is .. but I think kids do learn that things are different at daycare/school and home and learn to adopt and protect themselves .. I tell my daughter not to look at kids when they are changing, I don’t know if she does or not but now she does not tell me anymore that the boys have a stick hanging on them and the girls dont. 
And she doesnt like changing infront of others, so I do know that she will avoid it or will not be comfortable with it, this year we are not sending a bathing suit with her to the K-G, so there will not be a need to change for her, just incase they all are doing it togther in front of each other.
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im sorry.. but i beg to differ.. it gets harder with time...
having started daycare, son's diaper is changed infront of otehr kids taht are having teh same done to them... having taught our kid sharam from an early age... he cried non stop and asked for an explanation to this violation by a stranger (his teacher)... infront of his peers... not only that.. there was no washing of hands which is a far off thing... but even the privates were left as is after sitting on the potty, a diaper slapped on right afterwards.. his cries of haath tho dhula do and saaf nahi kara (meaning his bottom) were met with smiles and wows but still.. nothign was done.
nwo try explaining why things are done differently at home and at daycare to a 2 yr old.. i tried my best but god even to me i sounded pathetic. the effort i had put into teaching my child hygiene and sharam are going down teh drain everyday by the looks of it.. its depressing, and that was the first day i realized how hard my life is yet to become, raising a good muslim in a country that teaches one to be teh very opp (there are western countries, and then there are the nordic countries that put even canada us uk to shame in regards to ones body exposure).
so i can definately say... parenting only gets tougher as your child grows older.
well with my daughter i never had this problem u should check some other daycare for him n not wiping the bottom n washing the hands is so unhygienic .....kids can pass germs
when i got her admitted i asked abt hand washing n diaper changing etc . ya its true they dont wash the privates but at least they wipe it n when she omes home i clean n wash her sorry for tmi n definetly not in front of all the other kids no way !!!
i also fear this thing how im going to raise her as a good muslim just the discussion of haram chicken n halal chicken was too much for both of us n yes it gets harder with time
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im sorry.. but i beg to differ.. it gets harder with time...
i woudl take a newborn midget compared to a 2 yr old one cuz it seemed easier even though he suffered from acid reflux and day and nights were full of vomit.
why i say this is cuz... as they grow older.. the problems get more difficult and then society comes into play as does teh environment
an example taht has really shaken me a bit and cursed my man for living in a non muslim country:
having started daycare, son's diaper is changed infront of otehr kids taht are having teh same done to them... having taught our kid sharam from an early age... he cried non stop and asked for an explanation to this violation by a stranger (his teacher)... infront of his peers... not only that.. there was no washing of hands which is a far off thing... but even the privates were left as is after sitting on the potty, a diaper slapped on right afterwards.. his cries of haath tho dhula do and saaf nahi kara (meaning his bottom) were met with smiles and wows but still.. nothign was done.
nwo try explaining why things are done differently at home and at daycare to a 2 yr old.. i tried my best but god even to me i sounded pathetic. the effort i had put into teaching my child hygiene and sharam are going down teh drain everyday by the looks of it.. its depressing, and that was the first day i realized how hard my life is yet to become, raising a good muslim in a country that teaches one to be teh very opp (there are western countries, and then there are the nordic countries that put even canada us uk to shame in regards to ones body exposure).
so i can definately say... parenting only gets tougher as your child grows older.
I don't think this is an issue of Muslim vs Non-muslim. I think this specific day care doesn't do enough to ensure hygenic conditions. Even in gora culture they wipe their bottoms and wash their hands. You can't tell them to wash your kid's bottom coz that's just something only we muslims do.
You should try looking into different day care or maybe talk to the administration about this issue.
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khawa what a difficult situation to be in. Alhamdulillah we are blessed to have my daughter in a day care that is attached to the small islamic school in our area.
For me the most hardest part of my life was the first few months after her birth. I was a brand new mother with a crying baby who refused milk in any form. It was really frustrating. But as she has gotten older, things have gotten easier and better Alhamdulillah. So far i am loving her independence in some things.