Forgive my vulgarity. I usually don’t try to notice such things but sometimes unintentionally I get a glimpse of it and I find it extremely difficult if a colleague/friend/relative is in public and has somthing on him or he is doing acts like:
Anything is sticking on his nose, his zip is open, or he is siting right opposite to you while eating and when he talks you see the particales of food sprinkling from his mouth on your plate and on your hands, or he just started his food and few minutes before his finger was playing with his nose (unintentionally)…etc
I don’t know how to point it out to people in such situations. If I point it out to him, they might get embarrassed, if I don’t more people might notice the same thing which is more embarassing.
Re: Difficult situations in Public, while with friends/relatives
I always take him/her to one side and tell the person in private. They might get embarrassed for one second but it's better than telling them in front of everybody and then even the people that didn't notice it before start laughing at that person.
But it's best to tell the person instead of having them go the whole day with stuff on there face.
[qoute=Submission To Peace;4924676]or he just started his food and few minutes before his finger was playing with his nose (unintentionally)....etc /quote]
what did you mean by "if he started his food". Do you mean he started cooking his food?
Re: Difficult situations in Public, while with friends/relatives
If i ever had something in my nose/teeth, or if my zipper was ever open, my hijab showing hair, or my breath smelling bad i would rather have someone tell me then walk around all day without knowing.
Re: Difficult situations in Public, while with friends/relatives
I mean the person started eating his/her own food, or started cooking food (in case of a cook). In a few case the same person even handed over me the bread with his hand (which I knew were not washed).
Another example.
I once humbly requested an elder person to kindly take off his shoes as he just came out of the toilet and was stepping on the carpet of my room on which I don't walk with shoes on, as the toilet of that hostal is used by many people and the floor of it is mostly not clean.
There was no one around when I requested him, but still I remember that he minded it very much, and started giving reasons, that one should not be over concious about such minor things.....etc.
I felt really embarassed as I didn't want to hurt his feelings
Re: Difficult situations in Public, while with friends/relatives
^ i think if you asked nicely/respectfully you have no reason for being embarassed. It is YOUR room and you have the right to ask people to take off their shoes.