Re: Difficult long distance relationship here, need your views.
imo, she want's out! And its so easy to do so in a online relationship...that's not really even considered long distance, cause its not like you two ever met in real-life. So get over her as she has gotton over you. No point in waiting for her...she's probably moved on to her next victim by now.
Thanks everyone for your time and replies, it's just really hard for me to just try and move on as pretty much my whole life revolved around here, thinking of her, messaging her, and waiting to talk to her. Anyhow, today I called her cell again few times and left another text message. Basically I got a text back with someone saying she does not own this number anymre. So I text again and got a response saying yes she is part of family and as of right now she doesn't have any number due to some problem. And I kindly suggest don't make it worse 4 her by keep calling.
I know when we used to have some issues, she would completely ignore my calls, never pick up. It has been the same thing here, they're not even willing to talk to me for like five mins, so I am inclined to believe it is her. But I just can't be sure and it's driving me crazy.
At the same time, I can't find any reason why the hell she would do all this to move on because we were talking fine and weren't having any problems at all.
I have been thinking of involving law enforcement authorities and see where it goes. If she is faking it all, then I guess I would come out and look like a fool but if she got caught, I am still afraid she will choose her family over me. So I got a situation where I'm just bound to fail no matter what.
I know a lot of people think online relationships have no meaning( esp when I never even met her), but I feel like I felt more close to her than most people do even in their real relationships, she was just there for me everytime, and it's a shock for me how things turned out.
Also few people have pmd me, sorry I can't reply as my post count is low, if you would still like, you can leave your e-mail or something, and I will contact you.
law enforcement??? 
Re: Difficult long distance relationship here, need your views.
involving the law:eek:
look you’ll think that u knew her very well, that she understood you well, that the two of u were in perfect harmony, that u’ve grown a habit of her, of involving her in every aspects of yr life, that she’s ‘the ONE’ BUT now tht she’s broken the ties(indirectly she has) it’s time u move on in life, DO NOT waste yr time..do not keep going after her, in the end u’ll lose yr dignity and sense of respect and it will make u more depressed. best way is make yrslef busy and get involved with people in real life and not the virtual one. people have gone through this and achieved nothing, ended up destroying themselves. u dont ruin yr life, there’ll come a time when u’ll finally get over this like a mature person, all u gotta is hold on tight what you already have in yr hand now, at the present moment ie. family, friends, uni and good mental health
trust me buddy, it’s not worth wasting yr precious moments. agar saath likha hoga to ajayegi u dnt have to worry about it, agar nai to fine.
(u knw am not just saying all this just like that awein me;))
So I text again and got a response saying yes she is part of family and as of right now she doesn't have any number due to some problem. And I kindly suggest don't make it worse 4 her by keep calling.
All this drama is just really weird. Did this girl come straight from the motherland?? The normal thing to expect is that the brother or family member would pick up your phone call. And don't make it worse for her by continuing to call her? IMO, the girl has her phone and is texting you. She doesn't have the guts to break it off by talking to you so she texted it. Otherwise one of her family members would have picked up and talked to you- either to tell you to stop or to ask questions about your background. The girl may have been playing you all along... I know it sounds harsh, but it could be true. For her, you may have been only a friend or just a timepass.
If you're worried about her safety... which I honestly don't think you need to... but if you are, you could call her house number. Since you were in a relationship, I would think that you'd know her full name and could look her up in the white pages to get the landline number. That's better than calling some law enforcement authorities- even then you can't do much, you don't know where she lives. Did she ever say that she's in some sort of danger? You seem worried as if an honor killing is going to be performed.
Well I think she probably lied to me about her name also, so there's not much I can do, and she never told me her home phone number, I know its hard to believe for a year and half long relationship. Her family grew up here basically, so they didn't just come, that's why all this sounds really fishy to me. My only bad luck is that I really do love her and want to be with her. I feel like even if this is going to end, I at least want to have a piece of mind knowing what really happened, and that's what I'm trying to find out.
Well I think she probably lied to me about her name also.
I knew that was coming. So how can you love her when she's a lie?- her name, personality, and probably so much more. You don't know anything about her that you can love her. This feeling that you're experiencing right now is just an attachment because you spoke to her so often. I hope you realize now that she isn't worth it and you will move on.
I feel like even if this is going to end, I at least want to have a piece of mind knowing what really happened, and that's what I'm trying to find out.
It's not going to end, it has already ended... two weeks ago. What really happened is that the girl is shady and does not want to get in touch with you anymore because a) she's tired of you, needs to move on or b) her bf is suspicious of her two-timing. Whatever the reason is, she isn't worth it if she's full of lies and shadiness and you're most likely never going to talk to her again unless if she gets bored and wants to play with your emotions again. Even if you get a hold of her again and want to find out "what really happened"- her explanation could be lies as well- so there's not point in contacting her to find out anything.
Re: Difficult long distance relationship here, need your views.
All this reminds me of a drama I saw recently, Malal. It also had to do with long-distance and the girl lied about her name, leading the guy on into thinking it was a "serious relationship" for two years. Then one day, she told him she couldn't talk to him anymore giving no reason (she got married). The guy became so depressed, got into drugs, I think stopped going to school, etc.... My point is, the depression and not going to uni seems stupid when the girl is probably having a blast wherever she is and not giving a crap about you.
Think about that. Go to uni tomorrow and continue living your life. You'll find someone much better than her. Avoid a long distance relationship... or at least wait until you're older, settled, and ready for marriage.
Re: Difficult long distance relationship here, need your views.
Do you guys really think long distance dating can be a serious business which can lead to marriage? I mean, a girl and a guy got introduced on internet, they mite have also met 1-2 times with the agreement of their families, but can guys really be serious to any girl just over internet (after having a knowledge that they are compatible etc)? Marriages are common amongst colleagues/ class fellows coz guys meet and see the girls on a daily basis and this forms a strong connection. But can guys be emotional enough to miss a girl over chat, video chat etc, obviously after knowing that they can be a good match.
Do guys only get interested while having regular interaction/ meeting with girls through physical interaction or can they be REAL SERIOUS over internet too (I mean after seeing the girl physically for a few hours and talking to her over voice chat for a few hours which could had him feeling that the compatibility is present)?
Can guys become serious for long distance relationships? I know girls usually are very emotional... but can guys be emotional and sincere when in a long distance relationship?
Re: Difficult long distance relationship here, need your views.
In my opinion she's taken the cowardly way out of "disappearing" with no explanation, rather than ending things outright. Take it from someone who has gone through the same thing a few years ago, you will look back on your behaviour and wonder why you bothered so much over someone who didn't even have the guts to talk to you properly. It's easy to cut and run.
Right now you are going to worry and get down about it- that's entirely normal. I guess you have to wallow in self-pity for a while, but you need to get some perspective. You're young, and you deserve better.