What if you and your husband speak different languages?
Does it affect communication? Do you ever feel left out of the conversations he might be having with his family or friends?
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The real life1 thread should be . If your BIL , SIL, MIL speak different language in front of you , does it:
- makes you paranoid.
- irritates you
- makes you wanna poke their eyes
- makes you think they are saying something bad about you ?
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^ So mean…
Mere pyare se thread ko thikanay nahin lagayein aap 
As long as my inlaws dont tell me how to live my life…I do not care what language they speak…
But what about your husband or wife?
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Lol
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I am pathan, and my fiance is not. But I understand, and can speak urdu (not really well, but I get by). But I am practicing and getting better at it everyday. I try to speak to him in urdu as much as I can, and to my MIL as much as I can, so that I can get better.
He hasnt tried to learn pashto, and I highly doubt he ever will. But it doesnt bother him when I speak pashto in front of him with my family, cause i just fill him in after.
My brother is married to an Egyptian girl, and she speaks in Arabic in front of him with her family, but it doesnt bother him.
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learning a new language is so exciting :) if ur husband and his family speak a different language then try to learn it :)
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I'd say my first language is English, while my wife's is Urdu. It doesn't affect our communication though. I try to communicate with my inlaws in Urdu anyway, so I don't feel left out or anything. I have next to no interaction with her friends (and vice versa), so being left out is not an issue there.
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i'd love to give my two cents here but i am not married yet. reha is cheating by creating these married threads
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i'd love to give my two cents here but i am not married yet. reha is cheating by creating these married threads
She is not cheating . She is protecting her job. As a mod she is supposed to open 100 new threads on new topics every month. If fails to do so she will be fired and new mod will be hired.
Don't you notice this ukhaar pichaar of mods happening all the time ?
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LOL mirch I was a mod up until 2 weeks ago so I know how it works and I am just picking on farinaaa because thats one of the most fun things to do .
As far as the topic is concerned I think it depends on the couple on how they wanna take things. To some people it may be a big issue where as not so much for others. Personally, I have a thing for languages and I would give it a shot to at least be able to understand the other language to a point where a translator is not required.
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my hubby's family speaks bengali and my family is punjabi/urdu. Sometimes I do wish that we speak the same language because it helps when your in a public setting and you want to tell ur hubby something so that no one around would understand.
other than that..no issues. sometimes the inlaws speak bengali in front of me..if i cant get the jist of what they are talking about, i just ask hubby or SIL/BIL to translate.
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LOL mirch I was a mod up until 2 weeks ago so I know how it works and I am just picking on farinaaa because thats one of the most fun things to do . .
It is a bummer that they have changed their policy, back in my days that was the policy , that is why I resigned from CM position. Do they still pay the Mods, CMs , Directors , VP, President , wadi monchoon wala ? Back in my days they used to pay a lot of money.
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I didn’t speak to my husband for the first decade of our marriage.
Man i miss those days. 
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Im not cheating…Im helping you out…when you marry a non-urdu-speaking girl…tab meri baatein yaad aya karengi. dekhna…
Meri to kisi ko qadar hi nahin hai
Yeah I know but it will be a learning curve right? I mean, what will you do if she is speaking to her family in say pashto and you dont understand it at all? Would that upset you?
Roushie…vat you talkin bout?
Dont escare me…
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Must be the happiest years of his life
-Vanishes-
As for this thread, it lacks the cheesy quote of ‘the language of love conquers all’
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^ Cheeseball
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I don't think it would bother me much reha as I would be bugging her to translate some or most of the stuff. I would wanna pick it up though and get the understanding part down.
To be honest I can sit here and type all I want but I think it would be a little awkward sitting with bare boorhe of her family and being totally clueless.