hi gals i want to know if u have some different ideas for wedding in a reasonable budget.i want something elengent in decoration,menu etc not tht typical things.plzzzz share if u have any idea or experience tht is different for wedding.thnxx:)
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a beach wedding perhaps?
would be bad for clothes tho........
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an outdoor wedding? a posh ballroom wedding instead of the usual banquet hall stuff? a beach wedding would be so much fun, you'd just have to alter your dress to suit the different venues... like you wouldnt wear a heavy red jora for a beach wedding, it wouldn't work. and you wouldn't wear something breezy and light for a ballroom wedding either. hire a band instead of a DJ, serve steak instead of biryani, ask your guests to follow a dress code (maybe black and white clothes only), do something based on a theme (an asian theme with sandalwood fans, orchids, a sushi bar etc.)... lots of ideas! check out www.theknot.com > real weddings, for more ideas- you can easily adapt those ideas to pakistani weddings too.
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I've seen weddings where people simply used their back gardens.
Renting the required tables/chairs etc. is relatively inexpensive when compared to banquet halls and these days with CD burners you don't really need a DJ.
You can do something different with your menu by having a theme and if you choose the right season, you can have flowers blooming all around and not need to buy them.
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renting a tent isn't cheap... and if you're getting married in toronto, the weather is usually unpredictable- you could get rain, and if not rain, it could be really hot. so you'd need a tent. an alternate is to get someone to send you over a really pretty shamiana style tent from karachi. it'd be $$ but you'd own it and you could reuse it for other function.
and if you are going with your backyard, like muzna said, you can plant lots of really pretty flowers and bushes and trees or you can get it professionally landscaped too.
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i had designed my wedding card as a surprise for him ... but it got stopped in tracks,
but one thing you can do is that design your own wedding card and save money.
also have a simple menue.
invite very close friends and family members who are well wishing
no need for loud music, a simple instrumental cd for mehndi and rukhsati can
can play in the back ground
girls from both sides can get together and do decor for and favors for the guests
a simple dinner menu
set the stage in simple ways
take pictures by a good family member and may be one professional photographer to keep memories of your wedding
better do in a mosque community center hall :)
may you have a blessed weding.
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R u not desi or just not into a desi style wedding? Desis would go mad if you gave them a dress code,they’d simply not come. I’d let my guest wear whatever and would perfer my relatives to dress desi style as has been done for many years. I would have a nice theme(have 1 in mind but dont wanna tell due to its my thing etc) I would though modernize it alot with better quality music/decorations/venue than has been done. American weddings are so boring..becharay. A friend showed me a wedding pic of her cousins and her cousins saas was wearing a black short simplw dress and someone else in the pick had a simple dress that I might see someone wear everyday around town as in school/mall/work etc… DESIS HAVE COLOR AND LIFE!!:snooty:
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erm… OK. yes im pakistani, but no, i don’t like stages that are typical in pakistani weddngs and i dont want one, so im not having one.
and if you pay attention, the thread is called “different ideas for weddings”. i was giving different ideas to gulluno because she asked for them. i certainly wasn’t telling you what to do at your wedding.
and telling your guests what to wear is one way of having a theme wedding. and a theme wedding is one way of having a different style of wedding. which brings me back to what this thread is all about. 
you’ve clearly never been to a theme party or an american wedding so you have no idea what they’re like, outside of seeing pictures of them. perhaps you should make friends with some americans and go attend their weddings- they can be a lot of fun! its different kinds of fun from a pakistani wedding, but then if they were having pakistani weddings, they wouldn’t be gora, now, would they? 
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i've been to a theme wedding! it was a black, red and white! it was great fun! it was different and one i still remember fondly! paki weddings are ten a dozen and they all merge one into another...BORING! everything was all in black, red and white and we all had to wear black, red and white!!
it's good to branch out a bit... you can't call someone un-desi just because they like western things or have western thoughts... many of us are not born and brought up in pakistan, so invariabley will have a mixed culture...we're neither one or the other just a mix!
my wedding will definitely have an element of both east and west, doesn't make me or anyone else who does this, less pakistani.....
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i've been to a theme wedding! it was a black, red and white! it was great fun! it was different and one i still remember fondly! paki weddings are ten a dozen and they all merge one into another...BORING! everything was all in black, red and white and we all had to wear black, red and white!!
it's good to branch out a bit... you can't call someone un-desi just because they like western things or have western thoughts... many of us are not born and brought up in pakistan, so invariabley will have a mixed culture...we're neither one or the other just a mix!
my wedding will definitely have an element of both east and west, doesn't make me or anyone else who does this, less pakistani.....
I myself don't live in Pakistan but respect and love the Pakistani culture so therefore my wedding will have a Desi flair. I will although modernize it through decorations and such but myself will wear Paki clothes and make sure my family does too as they obviously will. I don't mean anyone with western views is wrong as each is entitled to their own opinion but I mean do not leave a Desi touch out of the wedding cuz that will make it boring. We have style, we have flair,we have color too! A dress code would upset Desi people and I know I don't want any1 telling me what to wear. Heck, I was at a wedding with arranged seating (uhoh) and some people disliked who they were sitting with or had difficulty locating their seats and I know one auntie who left the wedding cuz the line was very long (where you had to stand so the lady could look through the binder and find your seating)
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^ ok but that last point is just badly managed - if you're having assigned seating, you have seating cards that people pick out on their own- you don't make them line up to find their cards. and usually people find their seats during cocktail hour... they wander around, they mingle, they listen to the band, they find their cards and take their time. no rush, no mess. we're doing assigned seating cos half our guests are gora and the other half are not and they haven't met each other before so we'll mix and match people based on who knows whom and personalities etc. people will pick up their seating cards and sit in the proper spot. the end.
but i understand your point. i just think that people should generally also be open to doing things other ways cos sometimes, they're better, and sometimes, its more fun. just cos its been done forever, doesn't mean its the only way of doing things, ya know :)