i shouted at my 2 year old and she said to me to be more gentle in telling my daughter off and the way i speak to her because daughters will pick this up and it will affect her, no i wasnt screaming, just a simple NO.
so iv been thinking is important to differentiate between girls and boys treatment, for example, being more gentle speaking with girls and harsher with boys, as a part of what she said was right, what kids see and hear determines their personality and attitiudes in the future.
I don't have a son but I believe your disciplinary action should be equal for both boys and girls. Regarding shouting sometimes kids get so dheet that there is no other tool available to control them. My daughter experiments with literally everything in this world and she checks it by tasting it. So sometimes I have to tell her in a loud voice to not do certain thing. May be other people have different ways I don't want to call anyone wrong unless and until physical abuse or beating is involved.
yes thats exactly why i have to raise my voice aswell to startle her to avoid getting hurt.
i do believe in treating all kids equally like in the future one child might feel they are deliberately being targeted, as kids dont understand adult thinking, they take things literally.
I dont have a girl but I dont see why, if I do, I would treat her differently.
It is true that kids pick things up from adults and also peers.
Kind of off-topic but I spanked my son may be once or twice and in return he hit me too so it was no use telling him that I can do it and he cannot and I stopped. I do have to tell him in a very loud voice sometimes to stop from doing something because even after repeating to him like 10 times he would still not listen and then I have to raise my voice and then he listens !!
One of my friend thinks that since I raised my voice once, now he will only listen to me when I tell him loudly. (not too sure of that becuase sometimes I threaten him, sometimes bribe him and sometimes he is a very good boy and just listens)
She on the other hand keeps on telling her son the same thing like 100 times in her regular tone and he still does not listen after 100 times so I am not sure who is right and who is wrong but I guess everyone has their own methods.