Re: Difference of opinion
That’s the thing…there really is no “right” or “wrong” when it comes to raising kids.
Example: Growing up “back home”, I got beat when I did something wrong. Even at school, I grew up w/ corporal punishment (we got hit on our palms w/ wooden ruler at school if homework wasn’t done). My siblings were born/raised in the U.S. and as a result, had a totally different upbringing. I don’t think the way I was raised/disciplined was “right” or vice versa.
Same w/ your FB example. I know parents (co-workers mostly) who allow their middle school kids to have FB pages as long as they get to supervise it. I also know parents who forbid their kids from having FB pages. Each COUPLE raises the kids in a way that is compatible with their values and beliefs. If you and your spouse disagree on certain things…its best to stay calm, and each person states WHY you feel the way you do. There has to be a logic behind the actions. Once both sides state their “logic”, then either both party comes to a compromise…or one party decides that they will give up this particular thing b/c its not that important to them (but get their “way” on something else).
I think the key is to realize and accept that just b/c your spouse has a different view…that doesn’t make them “wrong”. During a discussion, if one of the spouses feels that they’re being thought of as “wrong”…it makes them defensive, and in my humble opinion…that’s when it effects the marriage negatively.