difference between sister wedding and sis-in law?

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Re: difference between sister wedding and sis-in law?

@nadz123

AS IN GIFTS…my sister getting married, whats normal to give your sister, when you are married, obv if i wasnt married i would maybe give differently, but once married, what did u give/recieved from your elder married sister…

**and is it normal for me to expect that my husband would give more to his own sister than my sister at their respected weddings..? obv his sister is his responsilbilty etc etc so he may give lots more, but should i expect same for my own sister? **
we giving my sister a gold ring and 2000 rupees to her husband on the day of baraat…( its in pak) this ok?

1. Who is the person that is arranging for your sister’s wedding? If it’s primarily your father…then he has the greater responsibility to pay for the wedding expenes (the hall, catering, etc). ***Keep in mind that if your HUSBAND is primarily the person who will be arranging his sister’s wedding (let say that his dad doesn’t work and they financially depend upon your husband)…then your husband will pay for gifts, catering, halls, etc. And if that’s the case…it seems kind of odd…to expect your husband (when he has this HUGE responsibility)…to spend the same exact amount for YOUR SISTER as well. Does that make sense?

2. Your husband needs to be considerate here (i’m not saying he isn’t)…because in your case…your husband is your cousin. So YOUR SISTER is his cousin…so she’s more than just a sister-in-law…she’s like his sister…so he should be generous.

^But don’t expect your husband to pay the same exact amount for your sister…especially if he’s not the the chief expense bearer of your sister’s wedding.

3. From reading your previous threads…your husband is not the demonstrative kind of guy who takes initiative in giving gifts to others. BUT…Alhumdolillah…he has never stopped you from spending money on your family (and he’s the breadwinner). So, he doens’t stop you…that’s a good thing…be grateful for that…and try not to pick him apart for not taking enough initiative for picking out stuff to give your sister. He knows his sister better than you…and you know your sister better than him.

4. I dunno Nadz. It’s the whole issue of “comparing immediate family and in-laws” that has gotten you riled up before and…dwelling on this often…can lead to drama. Easier said than done…but don’t get your mind geared up for making comparisons and picking arguments down the road.