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he didnt take time of work, we booked it when he had a day off.
I dont know what your specific situation was I was speaking majority of the time thats the thinking.
the person who is not stay at home parent has to take time off.
or maybe the kids doc liked him better, who knows.
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Again he is working and still made the effort to go when it is his day off instead of resting. Do you work btw ?
He WANTED to go, wasnt a forced decison, and i wasnt saying he wanted to be praised for going, i was saying how OTHERS praise a MAN, usually other WOMEN, when they see a father, being a parent.
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I dont know what your specific situation was I was speaking majority of the time thats the thinking. the person who is not stay at home parent has to take time off.
or maybe the kids doc liked him better, who knows.
nah all docs/midwvies/nurses like him, i remember all my antenatal apointments, they were like awwwwww ur going to be sucha good father, and what was the reason for such pandonium in the wards.....erm...all he did was sit with me, while i had busting contractions......yet he was offered tea/biscuits/cake and i was told to shut up and push......
its 3.40aM...I REALLY SHOULD SLEEP.
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it seems like they like him more than they like you.
as far as pushing, I suppose him pushing would not have really done much.
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it seems like they like him more than they like you. as far as pushing, I suppose him pushing would not have really done much.
lol.
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FYI, i am desi and i am sughaR [as my Bhabhi has certified me] so. as Reha ji said it all depends on the family and how he has been brought up. i believe in mutual respect.
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What? Pakistani men born there are far far lazier, nokron nay khraab kiya hai uun saaron ko.
See how bad the generalisation is?
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Ok, to address the issue:
It DOES depend on the family and upbringing.
A lot of western and eastern families deal with bad parenting, missing fathers, broken homes, etc. You gave birth in the UK where you might have come across people who were surprised to see a man doing what he should be doing. Yes, its his job but a lot of men dont do it OR they're so busy their efforts are not noticed.
Regardless of all that, dont let it bother you. Its your family, you and your husband that make the rules and each household is different. Whatever standards you two set for yourselves is how it will be for the rest of your lives.
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Nadz you are hilarious. Keep that chin up.
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Guys ..im gonna add my two dirhams worth … being a native of the UK and also having brothers, I would say that British Pakistani guys are pretty hands on people , yes they work and yes their wives work … very similar to Pakistani guys from Pakistan.. however the only difference I can see is that there is a difference in psyches and mentalities…with Brit Asian guys … a Brit Asian girl doesnt need to explain her upbringing, her confidence and her proactive role in the community, however some Pakistani guys cannot understand that social upbringing and context…granted Im aware that the world Alhamdolilah is vast but from my experience this is what I stand to believe - I also make no distinction between Pakistani / Brit Pakistani guys except only in a mindshift/ cognitive sense… men are men at the end of the day , irrespective of where ur raised/ how youre raised, the basic compulsions will most probably be the same…but how they act and behave with a spouse/ family is about your relationship with him and vice versa…women and men should ideally compliment one another so you learn and grow together:k:**
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I think it all depends on the upbring of men and the situation there in. In my household my father and uncle didnt do much of the cleaning, cooking, looking after the kids my mother and aunt did everything whilst at my phopha's house omg he does everything including the laundry, cleaning and he belives in equal commitment by both husband and wife.
Some of my guy cousins who were born here have begun helping out around the house. My brother in laws from India and Pakistan are more than helpful Alhumdulilah.
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Nadz, you're a lucky woman, you are!
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It depends on the family and the ubringing you cannot make generalisations based on just your own family.
Im in the UK my uni friends who are guys have cooked for me and cook for themselves and are pretty hands on. My bro at home does half the chores, he washes dishes, hoovers and helps my mum out alot. My cousins and uncles here are the same.
The men in my family in pakistan canada and america are the same, so its not about nationality.
My friends dad, who is not a brit, stands next to the sink and still calls her for a glass of water.
reha got it spot on.
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Totally depends on individual circumstances , but yea over all Pakistani men are more hardworking when it comes to living in a foreign land .