Y’all…
Apart from walking/dancing/prancing/ around a fire with the brides duppatta knotted with her husbands kurta… whats the other major differences between a Hindu wedding ceremony and a Muslim/Panjabi ceremony? My sister just recently got married to a Panjabi and her wedding was a typical panjabi wedding and it was the first one i had been to. It was the same as a Hindu wedding that Ive seen before on TV. I know we do Nikha… but what else is different???
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rasams are different, for one. i also think hindu brides, depending on where they're from, wear saris over lehengas/ghararas.
are you muslim? cos if you are, how come your sis did the firewalk? well i'm assuming she did cos you say hers was the same as hindu weddings you've seen on tv.
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No no, we are Muslim and she didnt do the fire walk!! I mean they look the same and some of their rasams they were doing were also same, like with the milk feeding to the groom. Hindus do that. Also everyone dances both in Hindu and Panjabi weddings and the men and girls mix together at the weddings. I thought Islamic weddings would be more conservative and segregate males and females at least. In Pathan weddings they do (we are Pathans)
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oohhhh i see! haha sorry about that!
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well the doodh pilai is like in karachi walas weddings too and same in punjabi weddings.
as for the whole mixing, these days the mod-squad people are mixing at the mehndi, and honestly in my opinion it should be segregated. as for the weddings they’ve always been mixed…ie the barat and the valima…though its a totally different story when the uncles sit at one side of the tent and the aunties at another 
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oh sorry lemme just add more. in hindu/sikh weddings there are a lot more rasams. theirs usually compromise of like one day. before that it’s like sangeet, which is a bit different from punjabi mehndis. in punjabi weddings, depending on the family and where they hail from before, the actual stuff is different.
like our weddings are like 3 days. 2 days for sure, which is barat and walima. the mehndi can be either formal, like you have a tent and invite everyone and serve snacks or informal, which is at home, with aunties and girls. on the mehndi there are usually like 2 or 3 rasams that you do, which involve mehndi lagana, tail lagana and mithai khilana. there is the dholki and gana shaana, and if you want, there can be nachna gana. again, in my family, there is no naach gana in front of the men. as long as it is a women’s only event, then girls can do the thumkay shumkay. i mean, i know for sure that not only we are not comfortable doing it in front of men, it’s also dissrespectful and we would never get the permission.
as for the barat, again, the main thing is the rukhsati, but in that there is the doodh pilai and the joota chupai rasm. that’s in every wedding, and basically it’s a powerplay thing, and also an excuse to get money for teh girls you can have it as elaborate as you want. it’s not segregated…and as far as i can remember never as has been. like i said before, the auntys and uncles automatically kinda segragate, but there is no barrier in between. and walima is essentially a big dinner. same thing happens then…girls hang out together, aunties hang out together and the men sit at the back of the tent 
oh these are mostly like city weddigns though. village weddings are a bit more different, but i don’t have enough exposure to them to really talk about them. but as far as i know, there is a lot more to them than the city weddings. one of the customs from there is the sarbala…back in the old days it used to be almost like a best man/protector of the groom, now in like city weddings it’s just a little kid as a mini-dulha
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well an indian sangeet is the equivalent of a pakistani mehendi in terms of the singing/dancing. in an indian mehendi, the bride hangs out with other female rellies and gets mehendi applied to her.
at our mehendi's, we don't get mehendi put on. well, in our fam anyway. its a big ol' pre-wedding party with lots of singing and dancing and ours are mixed. we don't really segregate anything. my cousin did but she wears the hijab so i guess that was why. she even had two stages at her shaadi and her husband shuttled from one to the other. i found that a bit bizarre, to be honest.
i'm getting my mehendi done after the mehendi party cos dimple wasn't available before.
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i found these really kool bunch of videos on the rasams involved in a hindu marriage.. they’re pretty informative.. cuz they dun just show the rasams happening but also explain them.. have a look!:
‘bhaati lena’ ceremony:
uptan & sangeet:
mehndi-related ceremonies:
baraat related ceremonies:
‘kashi yatra’ ceremony:
‘kanya daan’:
garland exchange challenge:
‘agni-pradakshina’
‘sapta padi’:
‘joota chupai’
swing ceremony:
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Hey y'all this is awesome..... those links are DOUBLE AWESOME!!