Re: Did you have a love marriage or arranged?
makes no difference !!!!
I personally think end result should be same ..............
drop knife on an apple or an apple on knife !!!!!!
why shadi !!!! lets get drunk and jump in river Thames
My wife's marriage was a love marriage.
she must be heart broken by now :D
i got married, that was the biggest mistake of my life
and that's it!!!!
awww...y korn what happened?? :(
My wife's marriage was a love marriage.
are u her reserve husband ????
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TLK made me laugh. So did clads!
Come on I don't drink!
Anyway thank you girls. I did talk with the parentals. And they being unreasonable. :(
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^ what did they say?
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Lipstick. I simply described the situation. They were against it. My mother said that my father won't be for it. Which he duelly confirmed when he came home from work. (I had a few days off)
I did give up and simply said - do what you want then.
Because he was like my caste runs in my blood. Basically more backward talk. Just feel like I have travelled to 1805.
At the end they did seem a bit positive by saying when they ring (the guys parents) we may go around and see how they live.
But then they negatively said: No they probably won't ring anyway.
head, wall
They said this - I think because they rang sporadically and it took them a long time to coem around.
Lipstick. I simply described the situation. They were against it. My mother said that my father won't be for it. Which he duelly confirmed when he came home from work. (I had a few days off)
I did give up and simply said - do what you want then.
Because he was like my caste runs in my blood. Basically more backward talk. Just feel like I have travelled to 1805.
At the end they did seem a bit positive by saying when they ring (the guys parents) we may go around and see how they live.
But then they negatively said: No they probably won't ring anyway.
head, wall
They said this - I think because they rang sporadically and it took them a long time to coem around.
sounds like my own story. My parents are very liberal and don't care about caste but they were concerned about other things. Anyways it didn't work out and I was really upset about it. If you want it then fight for it because if you don't get it you'll cry but be prepared. I listened to my parents and although I think I did the right thing in the end it still kinda sucks.
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i know a guy who was in a similar situation to u except it had nothing to do with caste. his family just hated the girl he wanted to marry point blank cos she's totally gorafied and hates anything desi and is very anti pakistani etc. he begged and pleaded and his parents refused to give in and tried to get him to marry someone else. in the end he just left home got his own place and married his gf at her home. no one from his family attended. he's very happily married to her but he has limited contact with his family in return. he visits them here n there and his wife has started going with him and building a relationship with her in laws. they've come round to the fact that their son is married and living his own life and there is nothing they can do about it so they may as well accept it.
do u think if u went off n married someone of ur choice that ur parents will eventually come round to it? or are they honestly never ever gonna accept it?
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Mine was love plus arranged as well. My hubby saw me at a wedding where he was actually trying to find a girl for his older brother! however, he really liked me and told his parents and they sent a formal rishta and all. We were in a long distance relationship after that for about 1.5 years when we really fell in love with each other and got married last year.
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Lipstick, I think at this point I will wait for his parents to call. My parents did say we can go see them.
but I know - or they made it clear that if I was to go ahead with it. They would want nothing to do with me.
I dunno if they will comprimise. And moving out and marrying him. - Again guys do it. But i have not heard of many girls who have.
They are effectively saying they will do it - and then leave me be.
I am depressed over this. As I find it odd. Its just a different caste! I don't understand why they don't accept it. but they are saying in pakistan this would never happen. Everyone would condemn it. etc etc.
I just feel miserable 24/7. Even when I wake I feel depressed. Because its like why have I woken up to this.
I feel defeated.
omg cool girl my story is exactly the same as yours.
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Weekend in Vegas.