no i didnt get the talk..not even from my mom..and since i dont have any sisters..as for friends..well no one went through it..so yeh i didnt know..well no one explained it to me..and when it finally “happened”..i thought i was dying or something:o…khair..the doc told mom to buy me a book..lol..there’s where i learned everything..even though it was too late…but yeh…never got the talk..
I didn't get the talk. The sex-ed classes in grade 6-7 did it for me. I couldn't imagine listening to my Baaba telling me the details.
The whole issue/concept is taboo in our house. No one says anything; if it comes on television either the channel is changed or people walk out of the living room.
I didn't get the talk. The sex-ed classes in grade 6-7 did it for me. I couldn't imagine listening to my Baaba telling me the details.
The whole issue/concept is taboo in our house. No one says anything; if it comes on television either the channel is changed or people walk out of the living room.
so are u talking about "the talk" as in bodily changes/puberty or "the talk" as in the birds n the bees?
my mother never talked to me about puberty and she really didnt have to since i had two (much) older sisters...I pretty much saw, heard, and knew about a lot of things before my time.
as far as talking about sex.....my mom started to hint about premarital sex in high school but she was so subtle about it.......but that was ALL she talked about ...nothing else..nothing in detail. She would just tell me how it is wrong to have sex before marriage and how girls are stupid to give themselves up to a guy before marriage etc. She went on to tell me that guys use girls for their pleasure but wont marry them.....most of what i believe is true.
i got the whole you're hitting puberty and this is what's gonna happen to your body talk for 5 minutes. i kinda knew it was gonna happen...but still didn't know why...or how as a matter of fact...until i studied my biology book in like grade 7...even then that whole section of the book was a taboo subject. got those pages torn from all the books that had em.
now? they've had it for years. they gave us a lecture in class 6 (12 yrs ago). but obviously everyone already knew about it and had seen a whole load of it in movies...
I got "the talk" about puberty. It was soooooooooo embarrassing for me. I wanted to faint. I think it lasted about 2 minutes because I was like a deer in headlights and I think my mom realized I was highly uncomfortable. I actually got it on two or three occassions, different topics. smack
Its sad but not many tell their children and I think that is one of the reasons why muslim youth are confused about sexuality. Their hormones are kicking in while religious beliefs teach them that it is a sin to think such stuff. They get really confused. If the parent do their jobs then the kids will know that it is normal to have the feeling and thoughts. And they should do positive things to avoid trouble.
Anyhow…
I think Moms do tell some to their daughters in Pakistan just cause girls have to deal with their special time and all that. But not as many fathers tell anything to sons.
My wife said, her Mom avoided the whole thing by making her older sister the messenger right before she was getting married.
For some reason I wasn’t close to my father like a boy should be and he never did tell me as well. Untill it was too late or so he tried.
When I was getting married at age 28, he wanted to tell me something very important and he said it is because I am getting married tomorrow.
You can imagine how embarrassed I was. As I was driving the car and he was sitting next to me, I just replied frantically, " Abbu I already know all that stuff, come on I am 28 ***Khuda kay wastay kuch tau samjha karain " ***and that was the end of it.
In hindsight, I think I should have let him say it as I found out a lot by accident after wards. I really did not know much at all. The straight puppu boy that I was.
No...but I had to get my dad to sign the damn sex-ed forms. Ugh...I did NOT want to do that. So what did dad do? Gave the form to older sis so she could tell him what it was all about...