at my wedding there wasnt even a ruksati (thank lord!) cuz everything else took too much time and we were a bit off schedule so we ended up skipping the whole ruksati! but i was panicking previously cuz i was damn sure i would laugh at the whole ritual rather than cry because there was nothing to cry about. I live 2 blocks away from my mums house and either she sends food over or we eat at her place almost everyday and we go out very often as well + i get to live with the love of my life (finally after a decade of dating) i would rather do a bhangra than cry :-/
I'm like you ShimmerV, similar situation and am only 10-15mins from my parents' house so not much to cry about..
I've never understood the mentality that a bride shouldn't smile or look happy at her own wedding.. so everyone can enjoy themselves but the bride herself??
I was just sitting on the stage with my bhabi, trying to get warm (the heater was a mile away and I was really cold and really hungry). My grandfather came with the marriage documents to get them signed, It didn't really occur to me how important it was. For me it was just a piece of paper I was signing. Once I was done I realised that "oh damn, I'm married now". I didn't cry, but I looked up and saw my mother and all my relatives crying and I felt myself starting to cry to. But my sister in law consoled me and ended up stopping me from shedding any tears (since it'd ruin my makeup).
havent had my ruksati yet, since we're waiting for the hubby's visa and I had to come back to Australia to finish uni. But my in laws did once ask for my parents to send me to Pakistan and I started to cry, even though I knew that my parents wouldn't allow that.
I have a feeling that when our ruksati does happen I might shed a few tears
I'm like you ShimmerV, similar situation and am only 10-15mins from my parents' house so not much to cry about..
I've never understood the mentality that a bride shouldn't smile or look happy at her own wedding.. so everyone can enjoy themselves but the bride herself??
The same happened to me! When I first came back from the parlour after getting my makeup done I was smiling and my mother told me not to smile. Like in the movie bend it like Beckham "Indian bride never smiles" hahaha. So I ended up not smiling (also bc I was cold and hungry and generally annoyed at all the flashes of the cameras) and when we looked back on the photos my Chacoo said "you just look bored and disinterested". I never understood the concept of not smiling on your wedding.
I cried a lot at my rukhsati. I was born and raised in Canada and I had a love marriage but my husband took a job in the states so I knew we were moving away in 5 days. But I only started crying when everyone else around me started crying. I was crying so hard in the car my husband asked me a few times if I was ok. I'm sure the white driver was a little worried about me lol!
I am ashamed to admit but I cried at my eldest sister's wedding. Not wedding but a day before wedding when I realized she is leaving for good. (On the actual rukhsati, if you remember, I was too tired holding Quran over her head). Anyways, I cried! I was little at the time like 15, 16?
This reminds me. I know this couple that got married in Canada where the bride cried so much at the rukhsati that the limo driver refused to drive because he thought it was a forced marriage. Then the bride had to convince him that she was ok and she wanted to marry her husband and it wasn't forced.
Born and raised in the US... have always lived 10 mins away from my parents after marriage, and i cried BUCKETS at my rukhsati lol. It's just the idea that things won't be like before... plus a load of anxiety, doubts about.. u know.. just how exactly will married life be. My husband always says "sheesh why were u crying, u can see them all the time".. but yeah.
I cried. I was teary eyed at the nikkah but my mom wasn't nearby so I held it together. At the wedding, I was teary eyed during the speeches but I started bawling when I hugged my mom. lol. Didn't think i would cry though because it was a love marriage. But I think the combo of exhaustion + hunger + constant sleep deprivation + OMG IS IT FINALLY OVER finally hit.
I cried. I was teary eyed at the nikkah but my mom wasn't nearby so I held it together. At the wedding, I was teary eyed during the speeches but I started bawling when I hugged my mom. lol. Didn't think i would cry though because it was a love marriage. But I think the combo of exhaustion + hunger + constant sleep deprivation + OMG IS IT FINALLY OVER finally hit.
I will cry at my wedding..very very much… hoonh.. bcz I want to..
and bcz I want to to show them that they did hell of a job raising me… and I am grateful..
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