Did you cry at your wedding?

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Re: Did you cry at your wedding?

@Siren

Really? I find that surprising. Most of my childhood memories of weddings consist of the bride sobbing as she walks to her dulha’s decked out car, hugging all her relatives as she goes. I haven’t seen much of it in recent days, but I thought that was because most of my friends are like me and don’t like to make a scene in public. From what I know it’s still pretty common in Pakistan to cry at your rukhsati, and if you don’t, all the aunties like to “haw hai” over it. I was even told not to smile at my own wedding because
it looks like you’re too “eager”. Pretty ridiculous if you ask me.

I don’t know, I guess here in the U.S. In my social circle and family, most of us have not had arranged marriages so the depression/ fear factor of “ruhksati” is not really there anymore? The only real emotional crying ruhksati I’ve seen was my khala’s and I was 9 yrs old at the time lol. In recent memory, be it friends, family or whatever, I honestly have not seen any prolonged years or lots of crying. My own niece got married 2.5 weeks ago, and there wasn’t a single tear shed at her ruhksati lol..it was all laughter and joking.