Re: Did Our Moms Miss Out on True Love?
I agree with Gaia, I think there are some women and men who lost out on the kind of love we all aspire to.
True, Western love does not have exclusive domain over expression of love and western expression of love shouldn’t be considered to be the measure of love. It’s not just having a partner who says the sweet nothings or buys gifts for each other, rather it’s that concern and fikkar that someone has for you not just because they are your partner, but because you matter to them (and vice versa) and life without them would be incomplete.
I think the type of relationship that Gaia is referring to (missing out on love) is where the relationship feels more like an obligation - an obligation to provide for the other person, to take of the home you’ve made together and the other person has been more of a habit in one’s life rather than a choice to be with them. It almost feels as if the partners could have been interchangeable with any other person and you don’t appreciate how special the specific person you are with is.