did anyone just have a

[Umer]

Re: did anyone just have a

@KKF

RuKhsatii is NOT a Islamic shaadii event…ONLY nikaah is and the valima is sunnat to announce the shaadii…valim a is sunnat because this takes away the man or woman’s ability to hide the shaadii [usually second, third or the fourth] and keeping it a secret. this also fortifies the inheritance rights of children from such marriages.

Exactly. I have had so many conversations that sounded pretty much like this:

Me: “Auntie, app ko bete ki shaadi ki Mubarak ho.”
Aunty: “Abhi to sirf Nikkah hua hai. Bete ki shaadi to hum agle saal karrainge.”
Me: “Nikkah hi to shaadi hoti hai.”
Aunty: “Haan aap ki ye baat to sahi hai, lekin wo to hum nai sirf is liye jaldi kar diya taa kai visa apply ho jaaye. Asal function to phir agle saal hi hoga. Aap nai zaroor aana hai.”
Me (thinking to myself): “You didn’t invite me to the actual event, ie the Nikkah. And now you want me to attend the Rukshsati, which you call the actual Shaadi.”