Re: dictation
tum bolo gi to kisi ka nuksaan nahi hoga sivaye tumhare.. ask them how they have done things.. if its food, ask your MIL how she cooks it.. even if you know how to.. iss tarha she will still feel involved and not left out .. my MIL used to tell me how to cook all the time.. ye aise nahi aise kar lo ye aisa nahi aisa bana lo.. even now she does.. and then one day i made chicken karahi my way during a dawat and within 15 mins of me setting the table and putting the karahi out it was gone and thats when she realized ke ye bahut acha khaana bana leti hai without any instruction or anything.. in her case she had to pretty much teach my devarani how to do things.. so she thought that with me she might need to do the same but i knew before hand but jst so that she felt respected I asked her how to do things etc.
har banda different hota hai.. if your living together and will be for a little while dont say ANYTHING.. if theres something you know you can do and she still gives you direction on how to do it.. jst listen.. dont say ANYTHING.. literally.. i knw u might feel bad and everything but this is for ur bhalaai!
trust me itll save you from all the 'saas-attacks' later on in life :)
Your husband might not say anything in your favor abhi because this really is something tht you need to take care of typical BAHU style!
abhi thori si tangi bardaasht karlo.. aage ka har phase easy hota jayega.. iA!