was thinking of the term and what it is composed of.
At 13 it meant, pretty close and pretty jewelry;
at 16 it meant having a legalized boyfriend:blush:
at 20; its loosing ur identity to another.
But at 24, its so much deeper then that.. one comes a long way from these stages and realizes that the term dhulan has such a load with it.
After four years of marriage, I think I finally understand what I’ve gotten myself into. Since this isnt my journal, I’ll stop the rambling now and let you girls/guys discuss what the term means to you.
When I think of dulhan I think of the comfort one will get from the marriage. A new life with new responsibilites. New roles. Goodbye to the family and moving on with the dulha;)
for some strange reason i cant imagine me being a Dhulan, iv always associated the word with new clothes and pretty shoes. I don't see myself getting married dressed as a dulhan. small nikah ceremony in the mosque, with me, him, my dad, siblings and grandparents and his parents and siblings if he has any. Thats it, no fazool people or menhdi or barat ceremony.
Even at 25..married..i still associate the word dulhan with pretty clothes and jewellery..but if asked the word marriage or shadi..my interpretation would have been different.
