Zamana
June 2, 2010, 4:07am
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I think some people have bad experiences with their dada/dadi or nana/nani. Totally understandable. We love our parents and hate to see them go through hell. I think its also how we make our opinions based on situations.
My dadi treated my mom very badly. My mom used to work to help my dad with finances, come home, cook, look after us, do her job work, make dinner for us… without any help. And then end of the day when she used to serve dinner to my dadi, my dadi would simply throw her dish saying yeh kia bakwas banaya hai.. maa baap ne kuch nahi sikhaya. I saw how she treated my mom. Pretty sad. But I still respect my dadi. She made my dad what he is today. Encouraged him to study. Was a pretty independent woman.. also very controlling.. but that’s okay. Mom didn’t complain, who are we kids to say anything bad.
So I think its how we want to see things. I see the goodness in my dadi and the bad stuff well, the only person who can complain is my mom and she doesn’t. She tells us kids everyday how great woman my dadi was and no matter what happened btw them its our duty to respect her. I think duty lies on the parents to make the kids understand this. I know suffering is not a good thing but if it didn’t concern me.. and my mom is fine with what happened, who am i to say anything.
I think we had the same dhadhi lol. I agree, my dad wouldn’t be the man he is today without his mom and that is why I respect her. Difference here is my mom couldn’t hide her sadness when things like this happened (I don’t blame her) and I do think in a way felt threatened by her. All I know is we can look at their relationships and apply them to our lives in a different more positive way.