Dewar vs. Bhabhi

[Fbi786]

Re: Dewar vs. Bhabhi

Bulbs i thought you were talking about the films 'Dewaar' and 'Bhabhi' lol

i dont know how it can happen but those who have some sense in them and shame and are in right state of mind then they wouldnt do such things. and secondly never give em a chance to behave the way your describing, if you feel that whats happening.

[Sara516]

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@Code_Red

mods cant do that

So basically you are trying to say that i have more powers than any mod can imagine in thier most covert dream ?

people keep on complaining abt me all the time, be specific

guess you missed the latest hoopla

[niyal]

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@BulBuli

Living in joint families, does one come across problems between bhabhis and dewars?

I mean how is the atmosphere with a ‘jawaan paraya’ aadmi in the house? Father in Law is different since hes supposed to be old and humble

Somehow, it would make me feel very uncomfortable especially if the dewar is the ruthless ‘staring’ kind

How can one cope in such situations?

and why do you think he would be staring 1 , when your hubby is around and he’s ure hubby’s brother ?

[Aiesha]

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[quote=Code_Red]
it seems people hardly pay attention to the crux of the matter ...

The message in the exlplanation in the second post is very clear, I dont see anywhere it is questioning you good sweet relations with dever/bhabi /inlaws how you respect them and blah blah..

All it is saying that you should not be alone with your dever (brother in law) or bhabi (sister in law) un-necessarily. Becuase it can lead to gossips at the very least or some ugly situation at the very worst.

I dont see any problem being friendly, cordial and confidant with your dever and bhabi. And in our social setup it is consider very friendly relationship. You hardly ever hear any married women complaining about his Male in laws in terms of respect or understanding, even if they keep on blabberin about female inlaws.

Also, in our social setup dever often take bhaibis into confidence if they like someone or any other secret matter which they dont disclose to anyone else, even to their siblings...but thats only even when they have confidence that she can keep the secret.

Dever bhabi relationship is lovely, when both parties respect the boundries.
[quote=Code_Red]

I think this should be the ANSWER of everything asked...very well!!!

[Aiesha]

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@Aiesha

[quote=Code_Red] it seems people hardly pay attention to the crux of the matter ...

The message in the exlplanation in the second post is very clear, I dont see anywhere it is questioning you good sweet relations with dever/bhabi /inlaws how you respect them and blah blah..

All it is saying that you should not be alone with your dever (brother in law) or bhabi (sister in law) un-necessarily. Becuase it can lead to gossips at the very least or some ugly situation at the very worst.

I dont see any problem being friendly, cordial and confidant with your dever and bhabi. And in our social setup it is consider very friendly relationship. You hardly ever hear any married women complaining about his Male in laws in terms of respect or understanding, even if they keep on blabberin about female inlaws.

Also, in our social setup dever often take bhaibis into confidence if they like someone or any other secret matter which they dont disclose to anyone else, even to their siblings...but thats only even when they have confidence that she can keep the secret.

Dever bhabi relationship is lovely, when both parties respect the boundries. [quote=Code_Red]

I think this should be the ANSWER of everything asked...very well!!!

[Decent_6Chora]

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@Code_Red

Btw, I like jeeja/ Sali relationship even better

Yeah i like that too. Specially becasue I had no younger sister and now i have 2 in form of Salis.

My brother and wife are almost of same age (my bro is 1 year younger than my wife) and my wife get along with my brother very well may be because we go to Pakistan (of my brother visit us in USA) for 2-3 months (). In fact some of the topics that my brother don’t talk to me about (just out of respect), he discuss those with my wife quite easily. They are frank but on the other hand they have a relationship of respect also.

[albelli]

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I also lived in joint family for 1 1/2 years and my dewar was there too, but since he got married at same time as us so he was kinda busy with his wife.
But i don't see any lovely dovely thing in this relationship, its just a respectfull relationship, he is like 2 years older then me n my cosion too, we weren't that friendly cousion b4 either but after i went to their family we just have this boundry.

n we call each other, App, n App.

but dewar is not "Mehram" so i can never treat him as my brother.