Re: Dewar vs. Bhabhi
If I can add my 2p worth into the thread...........
I love the relationship I have with my Dewar...I always wanted a baby brother and so treat him as such...so good is the relationship with him that I have just returned from India after helping to arrange his Nikaah ceremony, he asked me to go over and I had no reservations about using my annual leave to attend...I also email him everyday and speak/text often. He doesn't call me bhabhi (I think he only ever did that once!) just calls me by the shortened version of my name. He cares about me a lot, so much that when I was in India 2 years ago and his mum was horrible to me, he put her straight...that was very touching. My dewar gets on better with me than with his older sister who is the same age as me (she isn't married yet so is at home) and he treats me exactly like I was his sister. I can't describe the relationship, but given that he is supposed to be non mahram, the relationship is just so good that we can't think of each other as anything but brother and sister.
He will be coming to the UK when he gets his VISA insha allah and will stay with us..I can't wait.
I think it's all about niyat and nazar...not all men will be letches........but then there are also the women out there who break the boundaries - it's not always the men......