detachment-emotional

[Southie]

Re: detachment-emotional

My comments interspersed next to yours.

@Nisha25

clarifying, this was not an online person, flesh and blood in the nonvirtual, it was just the strong impact and connection that is hard to get over.

Yes, I understood that this was a real person. It must hurt terribly to lose a soul mate, a confidante, a person you could lean on. There is no way around this pain. You just have to go through it. Pain is OK - when we feel pain, we are human.

can you explain the thisself-defense(or is it an accidental typo, i tried looking it up on google, or was it supposed to be self-defense?). how do you(southie) personally use it, like what do you say to yourself? Sorry - I meant this self-defense. I was not very good at being detached. I am getting better. This has helped me have better relationships with siblings and their spouses - no unnecessary arguments - recognition they are adults with their own families, and it is not all about me.

plus can i say that right now, with the winter, plus this time it happened where i’m unusually emotional for some reason and my whole family being 5 states away, i’m feeling extra alone. Yes - very understandable. Again, no way around it. These “blues” feeling is what growing up is all about. It will make you stronger.

this is a self improvement technique(along with others i’m trying) that i desperately need to teach myself-positive detachment is crucial for me

Being detached allows you to see things from the other person’s perspecctive and not take every slight personally.

I hope this made sense - to me it is a lifelong process.