detachment-emotional

[Nisha25]

Re: detachment-emotional

@Southie

I think it is good to have your guard up in any relationship initially. Thisself-defense mechanism will prvent you from getting hurt unnecessarily. As you get to know a person better and the level of mutual trust builds, the guard slowly comes down.

With people that do not come into your “trust zone”, it would become easier to remain detached. Apathetic is detachment with a negative connotation. I prefer use and practice of detachment.

clarifying, this was not an online person, flesh and blood in the nonvirtual, it was just the strong impact and connection that is hard to get over.

can you explain the thisself-defense(or is it an accidental typo, i tried looking it up on google, or was it supposed to be self-defense?). how do you(southie) personally use it, like what do you say to yourself?

plus can i say that right now, with the winter, plus this time it happened where i’m unusually emotional for some reason and my whole family being 5 states away, i’m feeling extra alone.

this is a self improvement technique(along with others i’m trying) that i desperately need to teach myself-positive detachment is crucial for me