Re: despise my live-in BIL’s brother
Yo. Don’t read and respond only to force made-up junk in the convo.
I neither lecture him repeatedly. Never sarcastic (you made this up). I am never angry with him. He’s older than me, I can’t do that sulook with him. Also why I don’t lecture him (you made this up too); he’s okder than me. I talked to him, and even apologized for having to do so because he’s older than me.
My nasty khala and her ugly sulook with my sister are always the first consideration when dealing with this guy. It’s pointless stress. An ugly, lazy, fat bum in any context, no matter how nice you are - wil always be a stress.
I don’t fuss and fume. It’s easier to ignore him, and I gladly do. However, his bad sulook with my parents has to be addressed and can’t be left alone. He can treat me like a maid (like he does) for all I care - to me he’s just another worthless person. No one with ghayrat allows their parents to be treated poorly.
Parents are not relaxed about it of course. They are simply too old and too ill to go to the trouble of telling this badtameez what’s what.
Like I said, I do not make this an issue with my parents. It would only stress them because they already know he’s bekaar. You’re ignoring what I said I actually do. I do not cause trouble at home over this guy.
You’re a selective reader, which is an ugly thing to be because you’re only after boosting your own ego. End of. He’s a fat, lazy, be-hiss person who never bought a single toy for his nephews or took them out even once - not even t the park 20 feet away form home. His idea of putting the infant one to sleep was to throw him on one shoulder, while talking endlessly on Viber on the other hand.
Staying at someone’s home home and never once showing any consideration to the parents in any form - whether it is by bringing something home, or by asking how they are - is severe indencency.
It’s beghayrti to the nth degree. End of. It doesn’t matter what shape it takes - I’m talking consideration, not gifts. You don;t stay somewhere without lifting a finger; asking after the parents; or even at least buying a damn cake or a toy for your own brother’s kids.
Yup, siblings have inherent responsibility and much more so to help out.
Nope, doesn’t change the fact that this mota besharam bum decided he can do the same and stay in our home as though he’s staying in a hotel.
Nope, never said I was seething.
Who has the energy to seethe when you have a mother who is in remission from cancer, and much bigger worries? You’re immature as anything and projecting on me. I said he was a burden and no one, when a family has enough stresses, wants another useless burden. He’s a useless burden. I don’t like him and I hate his family over the massive jahez. Yup. Am I seething? Nope. never said I was. Don’t invent things, you.
TL;DR: you don;t know how to read, or respond, logically. You respond only to force your own ideas on the conversation. You seem to love dakhal and making up pointless crap.
You have an aunt who’s getting better after hell with cancer and stay in her home and never, at the least, ask after her. Anyone’d call you a besharam, behayaa, ugly person. End of.