Hey all
I live in canada. my sister usually lives in PK, but was here for a year whilst BIL was posted in a dangerous area for work.
My BIL’s younger brother came ot stay with us about four months ago. he seemed educated and kind at first, but it soon became clear this was all pointless acting on his part.
my mother is in remission from cancer. we almost lost her two years ago in the ICU. my dad is old and the just found a lump in his throat (alhamdulillah this was benign). He never, ever asks them how their are, dabaas my mom’s legs even when she’s moaning in pain, or otherwise behaves as one should to his khaala and khaalu. Instead, when he does pry himself away from his laptop, and does them the favour of his company, he argues with them about PK politics etc and is an appalling battameez when doing so (arrogant, knows everything, etc).
The guy’s a slob. he’s never once dusted, cleaned or vacuumed his room, despite having said he would -a nd we gave him the bedroom with the best furniture in the house and moved my little sister out of it to a shabbier one for him. He talks loudly on his phone at all hours of day. He’s been here 5 months nearly, and not once has he even cleaned the bathroom he uses or the basement suite he lives in. He’s a so-called ‘namaazi’ (though just looking at his speedy gonzales namaz gives me a headache) and is always strutting (not walking, really strutting like a cowboy) about with his tasbeeh. His wuzu would leave a typhoon in the bathroom and he took me many times of asking for him to start wiping the water. And oddly - he doesn’t go for Jumah unless I hold his hand and take him.
He’s an ugly misogynist who would tell me sister to get him a glass of water when she came hone from 12-hour shifts at work, and lecture her on how to raise a child (oblivious that she worked because his brother couldn’t provide enough for the family). He seems to think any kind of housework is beneath him, and yet can’t do a lick of yard work outside, either. (I was out all day one time, and the besharam watched while my dad mowed the lawn.)
He eats like a Yeti, with huge heaped plates of food and no shame in finishing off what’s left in the bartan, leaving nothing for others. It’s not easy for my mum to cook - she’s bloody recovering from cancer. He sees me cleaning and helping cook every day - he doesn’t lift a finger to help.
He’s an insufferable know-it-all. I’m nearly completed aalim course back n the day, and now am a psyc/economics major. This guy interjects into any conversation on Islamic topics or anything and gives completely mixed up, idiotic claims while laughing and calling me a ‘mullah’ when I point out he’s wrong (I never finished, so I never called myself an alim,and that was a long time ago, also).
I already hate this guy’s family because of the enormous jahez my khaala , my own mother’s sister, extracted from us - you should have seen the list. they literally paid for nothing and are now going to bum off my sister’s savings from work here. I did my best to be decent with him but I’m a guy who doesn’t suffer fools and fakes - and now I just ignore him altogether.
This guy is useless, ungrateful, misogynistic, ignorant, and fat (getting fatter off all the food he shovels in). If he was decent to my parents, the other stuff could fly. But he’s the worst kind of person to have in your house in every way. He’s a bhoj, a burden. I don’t want this guy around.
Anyways, please let me know how you guys would deal with this situation. It’s not my say, and no one can get settled into a new country in 5 months. I can’t expect him to leave, I know. But he’s such a besharam, behaya, beghayrat, laa shukr, battameez fake that he’s nothing but a burden on us. Why are these Paki imports such fakes and lazy, ignorant, misogynistic losers?