Re: desperatly confused newly wed
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I think you skipped over the initial part of the same aryicle which goes something like
EVERY relationship has a cycle. **In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
and from what we have heard from the intiator of this topic, that is not the case. There was/is nolove at play.
well and lets see what else did teh article have to say.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
a little differentthan people here saying . oh u need to try, find the good things about him etc etc.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out.
sustain i.e. to continue something that existed. so its not about creating 'love' but sustaining love,
'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go .'
amd lastly yes, so its upto one to decide whether they want to continue with someothing or not.