Re: desperatly confused newly wed
There are most likely several contributing factors:
1. Most women need an emotional connection in order to feel comfortable with and enjoy physical intimacy. Without it, many women find sex unappealing. Since you don't know him, his immediate attempts to have sex are not going to feel good. Rarely will women get turned on "just like that."
That leads to my second point. He probably doesn't know what he's doing. And neither do you. Assuming that both of you are fairly sexually inexperienced, you don't know how to make things "work" right. If he just starts off slobbering all over you, you're not going to get turned on. He has to figure out what turns you on, and it is not as straight-forward for most girls as it is for some guys. The sight of you your nightie might be enough for him. You need more, and you yourself are probably still trying to figure it out. So he's probably hopeless at this point. This will take time. Maybe don't jump straight to intercourse, but try other sexual activities that will help you "warm up" and get comfortable.
You just plain don't like him as a human being. That may be due to assumptions about him (you yourself said that you are practically strangers) or from your past experience. If he is not a bad person then perhaps you will grow to understand and like each other, and maybe love?
There is a lot of pressure on you, obviously. Just give yourself some time to figure out what the exact issue is before you take any action.