Listen citrine, you are a desi wife thats you are speaking so highly about desi wives. But let me tell you that my experience with desi women and desi wives is they don't do anything for duty period. And what about sex/luv making is seen as duty, you think all wives will do that not just desi ones. And I should laugh at that desi wives will do to make their husbands happy most of the time, can you believe what is telling us?
Listen citrine, if you are a good wife then I am very happy for you. But just don't try to make every desi wife in your shadow, most of them are not like that.
How about people should stop thinking that everyone is just like them? When you meet someone who is different from you, try to see how it makes them special. You should strive to see Allah's work in everyone.
When you say DUTY, and try to sound prideful, it makes marriage sound like a prison, the way western people think of an arranged marriage. On the other hand, you should not think that western people are all so happy to throw a marriage away. It's not true. All of this is really uneducated thinking, no matter which people are thinking it.
Pakistan has a long history of strong and proud women. Pakistan had a woman for a leader before the United States ever has! So do you think that every desi woman is just pleased to sit at home and make curry as their duty?
The only DUTY you should teach your children is the DUTY to respect each other as Allah dictates, and get an education--not so you can get a better marriage, but so that you can use your education to help people!