Sorry, but I call BS: I’m female and I hate ostentatious weddings more than Dr. LuLworth. I think nikkas should be small, private affairs and walimas should be staid, tasteful (by which I don’t mean ‘lacking in music, dancing and celebration’, but lacking in the garish ostentation that plagues so many Desi weddings) gatherings held amongst friends and/or family. Desi weddings seem less and less about celebrating a couple’s marriage and more and more about showing off their (or their family’s) means.