Desi views on "boys"

[Sweetmoi]

Re: Desi views on “boys”

@Niksik

Afro, you are right about this entire post being a generalization. I’m just trying to get the perspective of extreme cases which aren’t that few.

My very own khala for instance, raised her son and daughter with many differences. When both children married, they were both very responsible children. The son always took care of her needs and served her well. Her bahu was very nice as well, even gave up her professional career to take care of my khala for 2 years while khala was having one illness after another (mostly with no diagnosis :halo:). She would keep reminding her son about his jannah and all that and interfere a great deal in their marriage. They all lived together. He recentlly got divorced.

Her daughter on the other hand gets full support from her ma and she even teaches her daughter to stay away from her in laws which I think is unfair and double standards considering she wanted her DIL to stay with her.

I’ve seen that too among my parents friend, especially one family. They married their son and daughter off around the same time. The bahu came from pak and the daughter was married with a guy of her choice here. While the bahu stayed with hubby, mil and fil. The daughter didnt move in with her mil, but stayed at her parents home after rukhsati for 2 yrs. The daughters hubby would come and visit her in the weekends at her parents or she would go and visit him where he lived with his mum and younger bro. She didnt wanna move in with her MIL although they had a quite big home and MIL being alone (deevar was too young around 11-12 yrs old)

When my mum visited them after their new bahu had come from pak. The auntie said “isne kis se ilada hona hai, humara toh eik hi beta hai” .. When my mum visited them again when the bahu had a son, the auntie said “yahan ke bache to independant hote hain, isiliye humari beti abhi humare pass rehte hai. Jab apna ghar hoga tab jayegi” … Acha acha