Part II: As a culture are we ready or need to talk to shrinks? Everyone around me who is not desi has a WEEKLY date with a shrink or some type of support group.
Would you and your spouse would be supportive of each other to set up a weekly session to sort things out? Not even about your marriage but about anything that is bothering you?
I think call it a shrink or some thing else, but yeah that could be useful.
Specially when women stop making sense in a relation, couple can use a impartial person to set boundaries of sanity.
Njgal, i dont think so ... the reason I see is that we desi's naturally have a stronger communication level in relationships as compared to many gora's we see around.. plus culturally we are induced with alot more flexibility, sacrifice, forgiveness in relationships ... these really help us sort out most issues ....
yes issues may take time to get resolved , but then again culturally we have a much more reliable source of inspiration and solution finding body : relatives, parents, brothers and sisters ....
I know that for me , I wouldnt choose to discuss my issues formally with a shrink no matter how bad they get .. I will always prefer friends /family.
People often believe (maybe rightfully) that if you start taking Tylenol every time you have slight headache, your body immune system will become weak. For every small problem, if you seek professional help, dont you think that same might happen to your personal strength of solving and resolving issues. You will never be able to guide your kids when they grow up cause you never learned how to tackle proplems as even for the smallest ones, you were paying someone else to think for you.
I will be direct and open. I will be considered rude and insulting but so be it. I have been robbed twice, detained by national security, had my staff detained while i was in charge for 12 hours, survived an attempted car jacking and I have yet to find a need to see a shrink.
The staff counsellor here is a friend and we get along well. I am required to see the staff counsellor after all these incidents but he told me the first time I was robbed, I am too mentally fit to worry about anything including PTSD. So I don't bother seeing him and he just signs off on the incident reports.
Now unless you have to deal with this **** on a daily basis you don't need a *ing shrink. There is a reason why people need shrinks its because they are *ing lonely and spend too much time on the internet and playing make believe.
A strong family bond, good friends and a healthy life style trumps a shrink any day of the damn decade. Instead of running off to a *ing shrink grow a pair and take responsibility for the stupid * you do.
The you in the above rant is generic and don't get your panties in a bunch.
Considering the threads I get to read on these forms & blogs I get to read, I think having a periodic trip to the shrink will be a good idea.
I personally think there is a stigma about 'mental illness' that often hinders the person who has those issues to get help.
For example, I once heard an uncle who was an ex-Pak-Army person making fun of US Army folks having PTSD. So this uncle himself is obese, chain smoker, very dysfunctional family and thought the world was out to get him. The way I saw it, he had symptoms of depression even though he had never been in a war but unfortunately he considered that the suggestion of going to a shrink was close to losing his manly-hood.
I will be direct and open. I will be considered rude and insulting but so be it. I have been robbed twice, detained by national security, had my staff detained while i was in charge for 12 hours, survived an attempted car jacking and I have yet to find a need to see a shrink.
The staff counsellor here is a friend and we get along well. I am required to see the staff counsellor after all these incidents but he told me the first time I was robbed, I am too mentally fit to worry about anything including PTSD. So I don't bother seeing him and he just signs off on the incident reports.
Now unless you have to deal with this **** on a daily basis you don't need a *ing shrink. There is a reason why people need shrinks its because they are *ing lonely and spend too much time on the internet and playing make believe.
A strong family bond, good friends and a healthy life style trumps a shrink any day of the damn decade. Instead of running off to a *ing shrink grow a pair and take responsibility for the stupid * you do.
The you in the above rant is generic and don't get your panties in a bunch.
CM How about physical abuse? sexual abuse, mental abuse? How about loss of a child? Loss of a parent? Cancer, Debt, loss of job, monetary investment losses, terminal illnesses, children on drugs, infertility, racism?
For example, I once heard an uncle who was an ex-Pak-Army person making fun of US Army folks having PTSD. So this uncle himself is obese, chain smoker, very dysfunctional family and thought the world was out to get him. The way I saw it, he had symptoms of depression even though he had never been in a war but unfortunately he considered that the suggestion of going to a shrink was close to losing his manly-hood.
Those by no means are indications of PTSD. Rather PTSD starts off with a very simple heightened awareness and a general lack of security is felt by the individual.
No they are not. They are however symptoms of depression and he definitely needs professional help.
Anyway, the flaw in your argument "People for centuries have lost loved ones, they have survived. Vets survived in many wars and they suffered so much more." is that you can pretty much extend it to anything.
For example, there was a time if you had to have stitches, you would just suck it up while the doctor/nurse would do their business. It's painful but everyone survives it. But now they numb the area about to be stitched. It doesn't hurt that much. But by your argument, we have done that for centuries and should stick with the pain.
I can even argue that for centuries people have had traditional arranged marriage and they were "successful" so that's how things should be now.
There are certainly instances where psychiatric assistance is necessary. PTSD, Schizophrenia, ADD/ADHD, manic-depressive disorders among others. Yet...to go see a shrink to talk out problems is just absurd in my view. Dont they have loved ones to talk to? Why wash your dirty laundry with a stranger? One who may not have your best interests at heart but for sure has their fat wallet as their interest. I've known more than a handful of people in the business of psychological help and I have to say - a more messed up bunch a people I could never begin to imagine.
Work things out. With loved ones.
If you need medications, start with your regular doc.
Not a fan of shrinks because they usually only prescribe pills. But in regards to a psychologist. I think the only time one should go see a therapist is if they have been depressed for a very long time and have had no luck curing it talking it out with their loved ones. I do advocate talking problems out with those close to you... but in this particular scenerio I think its a better option than popping pills.
