Desi parents

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I finished my degree as a RN last year in dec and got married in Pakistan in dec too … Now my sister is finishing up her engineering degree has a job lined up already… Currently I am working on getting my boards license and my dad alway says you didn’t do anything in ur life nursing to koi bi kar Sakta ha … alway making me feel bad that all I did in 22 years of my life is get married . Which was arranged by him by the way… Feeling so frustrated

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really? your dad said that? :( is he old fashioned guy from a pinD? even pind folks like me don't think that becoming a nurse is a waste of time. sad! :(

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what can one say?

can't really say " abbu change kar lo.."

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^lol.
Don't feel that bad mcfesarah, at least you will be able to get a job soon and nothing else will matter. My dad disapproves that I didn't apply for my masters right out of undergrad, and now I see what he means.

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U re not alone! My parents are typical desi parents too
I jus finished masters will get my degree in 2 weeks....n my mum keeps telling me " har dusre ke pas masters hai, koi teer nahi mar liya tumne masters kar ke" "phd ke sath parhai mukammal hoti hai" ( btw my mum isnt a "real desi" she is a german brought up in pakistan but no difference)

i m working part time n after my degree i ll have a full time job... but my mum jus wants me to work coz its a requirement for phd admission... !!! N my dad doesnt say things like her but he wants me to do phd too

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Lol typical desi behavior. Take it lightly. Go watch nouman ali khans youtube video Abt desi parents u'll have a good laugh

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typical desi parents would be talking about getting you a husband as soon as you graduated, not getting a PhD.

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Desi parents

It's a bad thing some parents do. Expectations are through the roof.. Some parents are never satisfied.. Try to not let it get to you. My husbands dad is the same. It's a controlling thing as well as the show off factor because they have to tell the world. Keep telling them you work hard and no not everyone has a masters, it's nothing to sneeze over. Most educated parents know how much work it takes. I have never heard my Phd uncles say those things to my cousins. Sometimes lesser income or educated families think by degrading the child is the way to push their kids. I'm sure deep down they are proud but don't know any other way of showing it, consider it the desi version of tough love. It's enough to make anyone want to quit and run away but keep at it. Don't let someone's expectations discredit your hard work even if it is your parents, maybe they just don't understand and that's okay. There's so much my mom doesn't understand about me and it sucks because I can't talk to her about everything but I'm sure they still love you and deep down are proud! ( I would hope!)

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These are the new kind of typical desi parents.