Re: Desi parenting styles vs non-desi parenting styles
^ i have to agree.
Re: Desi parenting styles vs non-desi parenting styles
No, I don't think I'd want my child sleeping over at someone else's place no matter how nice those folks are [unless they are family] just because I don't know the dynamics at their home.
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well, u do have ur reasons and i respect that but i believe the kids should be given a chance to experience some reasonable freedom.**
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^ i have no problems having kids come over to our house for sleepovers, and they'd still be allowed to go out with their friends and enjoy themselves, but staying the night is a whole another story.
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I think desi parents are much more strict and non-desi parents seem more liberal because we are SO strict. In their society, Im sure they’re being strict. Non-desi parents seem to support a more creative method of parenting while desi parents are very rigid (or at least mine were) in their’s.
I just remembered this…at one of my first jobs…I was assigned the closing shift (was working at a fitness center). My mom got so worried, she actually called my boss and told him to stay with me until I lock up (I was right across the street!). I was closing, he comes up to me and says “your mom called…Mrs Ali has requested her daughter not be left alone to fend for herself so I am to baby sit you” 
Not my teacher or principal…my boss. The funny thing is, he understood and stayed every night I worked. He also had a daughter. 
Re: Desi parenting styles vs non-desi parenting styles
I also think that in non-desi/Western upbringing, there is more attention to raising a successful child by focusing on the individual and unique talents. Whereas in desi society there is more attention to achieving success by being more productive as part of a community, often through conforming and finding success through known/set paths.
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I also think that in non-desi/Western upbringing,** there is more attention to raising a successful child by focusing on the individual and unique talents. Whereas in desi society there is more attention to achieving success by being more productive as part of a community, often through conforming and finding success through known/set paths**.
Absolutely.
Re: Desi parenting styles vs non-desi parenting styles
I never had sleepovers, I wasn’t even allowed to go to another kids house to play, they always had to come to my house, as I got older, I wasn’t allowed to go out with friends in the daytime.
Aside from the no sleepovers rule, to this day I still think all of the above was way too rigid because I think it ended up making things worse for me as I got older in so many ways…
However I can now understand from my parents perspective, that maybe they saw something in those girls that they wanted to protect me from..
now that I remember, they ALL did emotional blackmailing in one way or another “if u don’t do this I won’t be your friend” thats kinda weird 
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Exactly!! ^
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I so admire the idea of nice and small family in non desi world. Its so nice to see how they get settled with just one child, and make him/her the centre of the world, whereas popping kids when the last one has barely started walking is bit of trend in desi househols. Its like non desi folks have so much going in their lives than just parenthood and domestic duties. I like to see young active mommies with one or two child keeping up with the world than being a scruffy housewife with 5-4 young childern. Although the trends are fast changing in desi world too in that regard.
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^ That's interesting.
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i started schooling at a very late stage. my bro and bhabhi [who are like my parents] used to treat me like a kid and always asked me to go and study 24/7 even when i wasn't in a mood to study. one day, i told my bro that i don't feel like studying then he gave me a big lecture and ever since i wud sit down with books to avoid being told to study. guess what i did? i did NOT study...i just sat there with books...and studied only when i felt like and i had A+ [92%] in High School [grade 10]. my bro bragged around saying..."see Hashmat, if i didn't push u around to study, u wud've ended up with just 80%"...i thought to myself...yeah, yeah, yeah...sure! lol
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My parents did allow me to go to sleep overs but now I don't think I would let my kids go. Like Niksik said you can never really know the dynamic of someones house even if you think you know them very well. Especially in today's world where you can't really trust anyone, there are countless cases of abuse from people you know well.
I would be ok with having sleepovers at my place and sending them to a close relatives place
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Story of my life 
Completely agree :k: