My mum uses 3 & 4 like most desi parents I assume.
I dont like it. Its annoying. And when I was younger, it really use to annoy me a lot. In my case it was never about school, because I was a very good student indeed. My mother doesnt know the language of the country we live in and my dad had his own buisness so he was mostly away so the everyday homework and stuff was something I had to do on my own. I knew once I was home there was no one to help me out so I paid extra attention in class and even if I didnt understand it I understood it once I was home, because my brain worked over-time. I really think it suffered from that :p now its pretty slow hehe ... anywayz to the point .. my mum uses 3 & 4 mostly regarding house-work.
From age 8 I use to help around in the house. and from age 12 I pretty much did most of the things. By age 14 I did everything at home *(cooking, cleaning, laundary.. basically everything). But when my mum got mad about something her fav sentence would always be "*logon ki betiyan to yeh karti hain woh karti hain, apni maa ko itna aram deti hain" .. "log to pura pura ghar apni betiyon ke hawale kar dete hain" bla bla .. and when I was younger it somehow motivated me to do more, because I wanted to show her that I was a good daughter. But as I grew older and the more I realized that "logon ki betiyan" actually did close to **nothing at home and the fact that my mother actually knew this but still used those sentence to "hurt" me, made me frusterated and angry with her. Actually slowly I started doing less to make her feel my worth and she has felt it and she does acknowledge it, but then again when she is mad, its the old rotten sentences again. When you hear them you dont wanna do anything at all. I know when I wont be here, my mum will learn it the hard way, but I would prefer she doesnt, because she is my mother after all. At the same time I want her to find me a girl who from age 14-20 has gonne to school/college/uni, done well and done all the house chores as well and I wont feel "hurt" by her words...