Re: Desi parenting ish-style
holy crap...i wrote so much. i was really mad that day plus i drank coffee! i posted like 30 times that nite i sound so pissed too lol. my dad isn't really THAT bad even though he does do all those things. thanks NJ masti for your good wishes though.
as for the ppl who think "thank you" is fake, i can understand. like "i love you", in western society, people say polite words so much that it sounds trite after a while. Also "thank you" can sound like you think you're like a king gracing a subject with thanks (to desi ppl)...for example, it's like if someone says "shabash" to me even though it's a compliment, i get annoyed cuz im like "tum kaun ho mujhe shabash dene wale?"..u know what i mean. the other day i cleaned the kitchen and my mom said "thanks", i was like "GRR dont say thanks! its jus somethin i do!"..i guess im just weird. However i did say thanks a lot at work, but it's just habitual. like im not really thankful that the person made a purchase, mera kya jaata hai? lol.
as for ilu, my mom never says "i love you" but even other people say to her that she is a very loving mom so her love is clear, and stronger than small words. i've only said it once...and it was so much more meaningful than the flippant "omg ily" fake messages people send all the time.