Desi parenting ish-style

[NJMasti]

@somegroovychick

i HATED getting the silent treatment from my dad.
if i ever did anything wrong, he’d stop speaking to me until i apologised.
it caused a lot of resentment and anger and truthfully, it still bothers me. i’ve made every effort to avoid doing that in my relationship with my husband and iA will not do it to my kids either!
ultimately, there was this huge distance, he didn’t understand where i was coming from or why i wanted to just have a life and friends, and in turn, i stopped communicating with him. apologies were insincere and forced and mostly after days of tension in the home.
arrrgh! so frustrating!
i love my father, but i don’t think i’ll ever get over the silent treatment trauma.
it was like, how can you forget i exist because i wanted to go to a concert or to the movies with my friends? is it really that easy for you to deny my presence? because honestly, it didnt seem to bother him that much.
meh.

also, why do desi parents never tell their kids they love them? its only now, after many years and many arguments that things have finally settled and AH, we end every phone call with “love you”. but for the longest time, i had no memories of my parents telling them they loved me.
now that’s a fail.

ye what’s up with parents of our generation?

Me too - hanging out with friends was like a semi-crime. Going to parties and concert was full crime!

lol

At least your parents end their conversation with “love you”… we don’t even do that. We just have a heart to heart feeling that we do love each other… but it’s never mentioned… to top it off we never hug.

Hugs are reserved for Eid only and that too by mom. Never from dad and brothers.

lol

that’s a messed up culture.

I cannot imagine going without hugs and kisses and I love yous - to my kids. It’s difficult to understand parents of our generation to go without hugs and kisses and I love yous…

…it’s wierd - but you just can tell it from their eyes on how MUCH they love you - yet never say it