I hate when parents act like they’re doing a big huge favor raising you, feeding you, clothing you, schooling you etc. Gosh thats just so messed up, they CHOSE to have kids they should have thought about the responsibilities that come with it too.
Beatdowns is what went down in my fam. Dad would never touch the girls, but ammi did do the odd joothi-throw or smack here and there. Honestly it wasnt brutal, heck it wasnt even that bad, and I think it kept us in check. But sometimes we were just so fearful of her too… so thats a negative. I dont think your kids should literally tremble from fear if they’ve done something wrong… thats not a healthy relationship.
Blackmail is just a no go and putdowns are even worse. I’m doing the whole parenting thing now and I have to admit its not so easy, sometimes you just have to bite your tongue and not say whats really on your mind cuz at the end of the day Im the adult and the way I bring up the kids (siblings) is going to affect how they live life and value relationships and thrive in society. I have to be rational , understand and accepting of each and every one of them and respect their individuality while keeping authority, which will never be achieved through crooked means.