NJMasti girlie - I totally identified with your post. I don’t mind the guilt trips. I sometimes think that if my parents didn’t voice it out - that “mujhay ehsaas bhi nahin hota” what they have given up for us.
Their careers, their home, their country, their relatives.. everything for their kid’s betterment.
My parents were first generation immigrant students while I was growing up. Saying that money was “tight” would be an understatement. But they did their best and they were happy. They were happy so we were happy.
As a parent - I realize that parenting is such a balancing act. I don’t agree with putting kids down but I want my children to have some sort of “ehsaas” as to what their parents do and give up for their sake.
(I haven’t figured how to do that just yet
whatever your ways are never blame it on kids that because of them you had to SACRIFICE your life
It’s difficult to understand parents when they say these things - because they always had a choice to bring you or NOT into this world.