Desi obsession with Zevar

So many zevars in sub-continent society.

paanv mein payal, baahon mein kangan, gale mein hansli, kamar band, challe aur bichue…

Payal is not only zevar for feet.. paazeb, ghungroo are few more varieties.

Sindhi marriage songs (known as sehra) are different at start and majority goes on same track in between. That is the bride wishing that her mayke wale will give her Dohri (call it nau-lakha haar), heavy bracelet (Bhanhi), tika, jhoomar, mundri… siyapa ee ae ladki bhi do aur zevar bhi :smack:

Almost all museums (Moen jo Daro, Bhanbhor, Taxila, etc) in Pakistan have zevars at display.

Sir Syed Ahmed Khan termed economy of subcontinent as ‘uncivilised’ and one of the reasons was that every community stuck up their investment in gold zevar instead of investing it for industrial and commercial purposes. People took loans on marriages of daughters to give them zevars. The situation is still same today :bummer:

So whats with this obsession with Zevars by Desi community? Is it useful by any way?

Are the communities outside sub-continent equally obsessed with zevars? Do their museums got zevars at display like in our museums? What are the names and variety of zevars in non-Desi communities?

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I think the situation has calmed down by just a fraction. I remember when at weddings (walima) women were used to show, on stage, the gifts given to the bride which included jewellery and kapre wagera. I think it's mostly to show off and some people provide as it may provide financial stability when a dulhan joins her husband. Most women are obsessed with gold and they just keep it in drawers without even wearing them once. It

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I'm sure most of the married guppies have given something in gold to their wives as munh dikhai. Now, its diamond era.

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Wearing gold = prestige

In my family, they say wearing (gold) jewelry marks a married woman. It's how you tell a married female apart from a single female. Solah singhaar is a married woman's adornment; if she isn't dolled up, her in-laws might take offense that she isn't putting in the effort to look distinguished/beautiful for her husband and perhaps she isn't happy with the marriage.

Other reasons:

  • Gold is a sound investment / financial security
  • Meeting cultural expectations / showoff
  • Competition ... if you gave one daughter 20 tola, must give the other daughter the same

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Hmm.

Do you think that if the male poets and lyricists and even male heroes in the movies didn't croon about payal ki chan chan, laung ka lashkara, chooriyon ki khan khan, falana tamkaan.......that maybe a big deal wouldn't have been made about zevar?

See, you're lamenting that...." Siyaapa ee ai, larki bhi do aur zevar bhi".....but you men are partly to blame for it. Tsk..tsk...tsk.

Now look at goray folks. They don't sing about a woman's jewelry or her dupatta or her lehnga. Tab hi to they have a minimalist mind set when it comes to jewelry......and unfortunately clothes as well.

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Raajay Mahaarajay, Nawaab, Jageerda; and the people who look up to them. Thats the mindset

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We can't beat rappers though :(

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Bappi Lahiri is no rapper. He only dresses the part.

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But why these concepts of being prosperous have been linked with gold in sub-continent society? why not in Europe or America, where people are more prosperous than us. I thought that dis-association in west is linked with working woman status and these all kharafaat develops when one got plenty of extra time, but western museums also don't have that quantity of zevars on display as in east (especially in sub-continent), which says that western ladies were not obsessed with zevar in medieval times.

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I think male poets wrote about Kangan, Bunda as they were loved by females they loved… Otherwise males were / are interested in other aspects than zevar.
:hehe:

Historically, there is missing link who demanded for jewellery first. men or women? but now if a married woman didn’t carry handsome quantity of jewellery, most likely she is taunted by person from her own gender than males.

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Gold form very basic of hindu religious sanskars, so comes natural to them and consequntly the colorfulness of Hinduism draws their gold consumption :)

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How can be gold a sanskar? As per Ekta Aunty, Sanskaar / Sanskriti is good manners.

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Women in every culture pay attention to beautifying themselves in different ways. For instance, in Europe and America, there is so much emphasis on the engagement ring having the biggest/shiniest rock. Jewelry is popular in the west too, but their taste preferences are different than ours. They prefer minimalistic pieces whereas we tend to go for statement pieces (preferably in Gold). Hats and gowns used to be the talk of the town in the royal era. For financial security, they prefer putting their name on the house rather than collecting precious commodities...etc.

Women in our society have historically been more concerned with domestic affairs and pleasing/taking care of everyone in the family. Our marriages are not an equal partnership; the male figure is almost always given more authority (even in the maid's house where she works 12 hours/7 days and her husband drinks and beats her up every night). To a large extent, this trend is still prevalent. By contrast, women elsewhere have become more and more career-oriented overtime. That means, being self-sufficient, independent and busy, and therefore less time and motivation to cater to the family's needs. Also, in many professions, a conservative, "business" look has to be maintained, so makeup and jewelry are to be kept at a minimum.

Have you noticed career-oriented females in our generation are much less concerned with dowry or gold collection than even a generation earlier?

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In Pakistan most of the working ladies are in teaching profession. I think they are more obsessed with jewellery and its show-off than normal house wives. This is my observation, as in our family, many ladies are associated with teaching.

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Are these career-oriented ladies or just working women? There is a difference in keeping a job to help make ends meet vs. striving towards a fulfilling long-term career.

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No one is really talking about history of and richness of the land in this thread, but oh well, I'll start.

'Desis' are not the only people 'obsessed' with jewellery (Gold jewelry is a different subject), jewellery has been an important and distinct part of Roman, Greeks, Byzantine, Arab, African, Persian, Ottoman Cultures. If there's one thing that Anglo-Saxon Western cultures truly missed is the glamour, if if they had some of it, it was not refined and creative enough to compete with the sheer quality and level of glamour displayed in other exotic cultures.

Why jewelry has always been part of our culture and heritage is probably because of Hinduism. Literally all the statues of Hindu Goddess, deities and naked dancers - recovered in Indus Valley - belonging to BC Era shows the importance and great use of zevar. All statuted and wall craved women are covered with Jewellery instead of clothes, be it on form of heavy layered necklaces, armlets, hair and head pieces, bangles and rings. It is for that reason, in our culture, wearing jewellery is considered very feminine (of course men also wore jewelery, but it was ultimately woman's pride) and why our ancestors thought that women should wear jewellery is perhaps also linked with Hinduism. In Hinduism, there is a belief that wearing jewellery and bright colours lift your spirits and pleases God - I'm not sure if that's the connection behind most Hindu women from Bengali background dressing semi bridal for Durga Pooja?

However above all, the fact Jewelery is such an important part of Asia's culture and heritage is simply due to the fact that Sub-Continent as well neighbouring countries are blessed with vast variety of deposits of precious and semi precious stones (does that almost explain why Imperial Powers are always so keen to have an adventure in poor little Afghanistan - sorry I digress, that's another topic in itself). As a result, we ended up producing a sea full of exceptionally skilled craftsmen and jewellery making became a popular profession and a growing field.

Not all jewellery mentioned in the OP has to be made of gold, I understand and appreciate people's concern regarding outward display of materialism and societal pressure that goes with gold, however, one must appreciate the artistry and craftsmanship that goes behind all metal jewellery in the Sub-Continent. It's beautiful. I don't really wear Jewellery on daily basis, but I sure love collecting it, especially the exotic and regal looking.

I have a very urban, minimalistic, clean and classic sense of dressing when it comes to Western wear, however, if I have to spend a fortune to get one those Mughal era inspired Jumhkha's to complete a Pakistan outfit, I probably will! I absolutely adore vintage, classic and chunky jewellery and to answer Muqawee's question, my passion for vintage and classic jewelery developed after visiting British museums.

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^Same here...I love the vintage look...that dull gold color. I've seen that really peela gold in Desi jewelry stores....it seems more of an Indian/hindu thing....their religious jewelery is often bright yellow. Don't find it attractive.

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Yeh kamar band mainy asal zindagi main kisi aurat ko pehnay nahi dekha… appp tasweer chispan karain takay mujhy idea ho kay kis noeiyat ki guftagu horahi hai… :hehe:

Artificial jewelery pehntay hongay…

Its falana dhimkana… :emmy:

uss mozo par alag thread hoga… abhi sirf desi obsession par baat horahi hia…

I noticed…

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Asians in general like bright golden gold, I am not a fan of that gold either. I like gold that looks worn out, just slightly dull looking.