Desi Muslim Dating in the West

[bella88]

Re: Desi Muslim Dating in the West

@zetsui

Again a generalization, they have some of the lowest STD rates, and divorce rates too. I don’t know about their pre-martial flings though

Personally most Muslims I know, especially those born in the States (vs those coming from overseas) dont do anything before marriage, especially penetrative.

wow this is so ridiculous. almost ALL My highschool pakistani friends lost their virginity in college, INCLUDING one hijabi girl! (Before they were married). and as far as STD’s are concerned, how the hell do you know they have least. obviously they are not going to broadcast it, as it’s very private and no doctor would even give out that kind of information . and secondly just because it’s not much reported, doesnt mean they dont have it! desis would never even test for those because it would be such a stigma. and third, STD are spread if you dont take precautions, so maybe desis tkae better precaution because they really dont want to get pregnant out of wedlock.

On dating, I know VERY few who do it, and personally I keep myself too busy to be involved in time wasting ****t like that. You’re 22 when you graduate from college need a solid 3-5 years work experience to get anywhere in today’s economy. Banks and Med schools aren’t taking low grades in either, so you better be a focused young 4 years in college. Has there been temptation? Of course, but I think to myself I waited 25 years,why not a few more to share with the woman I love? Also self-preservation and pleasure leads you to learn about yourself and your own body and sexuality.

you’re saying very few pakistanis date??? oh boy. if you only hang out with the ICNA ISNA crowd then maybe, but general non religous pakistanis date just like americans do. great that you havn’t had the temptation but don’t assume that all pakistanis are like you.

Part of the experience of self-denial is self-control and bettering oneself, focusing on more important issues like what makes a good wife, coming to greater realizations, like why people who live, ****, and sleep together have far higher divorce rates than those who don’t. Largely because marriage has become trivialized, when you get all those things before marriage.

again more BS. people have higher divorce rate for many reasons, it has nothing to do with having sex before marriage. having affairs after marriage, financial stress, inlaws stress, and many ohter things cause divorce. and just because someone is not divorced does not mean the marriage is successful, some ppl stay married but fight all the time and and very unhappy together. no need to consider divorce such a terrible thing when it can be quite a relief sometimes