Desi Muslim Dating in the West

[chacha_Ghalib]

Re: Desi Muslim Dating in the West

@Geezer

Does the term desi muslims dating include desi couples where one person is muslim and the other not? More nasty things happen in that kind of set up.

Yes. I mentioned them in the last sentence of the OP.

@Zafra

What do you do on a date? You go out for food and some form of entertainment. Please explain how would this be different if you are desi? It wouldn’t be. You still talk and get to know each other. Regardless of what Hollywood depicts most goris don’t sleep with guys on the first night.

I thought it was clear from the context of the OP that I was referring to the whole process of finding a spouse and not the first date.

Zafra, we all know that that’s what it ultimately leads to. And kissing and hugging aren’t even a big deal on the first few dates. Do you want to amend your earlier post that desi dating is the same?

@Reha

Dating according to Mirriam Webster:

the series of social engagements shared by a couple looking to get married

Dating is all the same…you get to know someone over the phone, at a Starbucks, dinner, chai, etc. A date doesn’t imply sex or anything lewd…its an assumption our desis make that dating is haraam because the word is an English word. Dating is the little lunch you might have had publicly together before you got married. That was a date. A date is coffee. A date is a walk in the park. You met up with a romantic interest in each other - its a date. Renaming it won’t change the act or how its perceived by normal people who actually date.

I’m not sure why people are getting hung up over the word dating. Call it getting to know a potential rishta. That process certainly isn’t a one off meeting.

Question is when two people have the hots for each other and think that it could go somewhere, do they stop at just meeting and talking?