Re: desi men vs white men
How do you know that?
Experience.
Desi men are raised to think the sun shines out of their patootie, right? They are raised to believe that women are there to serve and obey (at least to some degree). Boys and girls are raised as though they are different species, so they just don't know what to do and have all sorts of nakhere. Desi guys have only other spoiled boys to get their (mis)information from, and so they don't have a clue what to do.
Good lovers can't be full of themselves: they need to be into you, if you will pardon the expression. That goes for both sides of the equation, men and women.
Anyway, I'm only talking about sex here. There are many exceptions to the rule, but you can't know till you're looking at him on the pillow...
As for other aspects of married life, I don't think you can make generalizations, although an earlier poster's point about equality is quite true.