Re: Desi larkian need to…
Ghulail , trace back my comments and tell me where you see me saying that uneducated girls are ALL spineless?
:nono: don’t put words in my mouth. You’re just like SaraSplendor. A traditional-minded woman.
Here’s what I’m saying:
Scenario: Population A.
Population A is comprised of 100 girls. (Lets take a large n).
All 100 girls are denied (DENIED) access to higher education. They’re only allowed to go up until, lets say, grade 10. So they matriculate from matric.
The population lives alongside Population B - comprised of 100 men. All these men are allowed to go up until bachelors, or masters, or Ph.D. or M.D. or J.D. or whatever degree they want. There is complete freedom for men to take on whatever profession they want, etc.
Population A has 10 women that are natural born leaders. They’re the kind you can’t mess with because they have no problem in putting you in their place. Their husbands know this. They made sure to marry the 10 men in Population B who would not abuse them, etc. This is because they were strong and didnt allow themselves to be pushed into a bad rishtaa. If they knew the guy was a good guy, they went for the marriage.
Other 90 women are not natural born leaders - their NATURAL personality is that of “we’ll do what the other girls do”. They dont think much for themselves, and they don’t feel too empowered.
Of the 10 strong women, some are abused, some are not.
Of the 10 strong women who are abused, they fight back. Its in their nature - they dont take shyte.
If you take these other 90 women, you’ll see again, that some are abused, and some are not.
The ones who are abused from this subsection are the ones that will TEND to not do much to stop the abuse. Actions to stop the abuse are not limited to leaving the relationship, please take note.
Of these abused girls in the 90 subsection, a few will find the courage to do something about it. Many wont.
So lets say out of the 90 girls, 10 are abused. I would say probably 1-2 will be able to make it out of the situation on their own. They will develop courage from experience WITHIN the situation. That is, prior to the abuse, they didn’t have much courage-building experience. They studied and were then married off. But these 1-2 girls will have built the courage from within their experience. Buts its late in the game, and abuse already took place.
The other 8-9 girls will continue to exist in their abusive relationship, not lifting a finger.
What sadiyah is saying is that if you get girls to be educated, then these 8-9 girls are given the opprotunity to have some pre-marital LIFE experiences that give them the courage to fight. Even after education, maybe 1-2 of these 8-9 girls will not be able to fight back. They’re the kind that would look for extra therapy, and self-esteem building classes, etc.
But the fact that you had education, it helped some of the girls. And that’s a big difference when you’re dealing with a population size in the thousands, and hundred thousands. In my model, education helped 6-8 girls out of 100 girls. That’s a good 6-8 percent of your population.
And my model is talking only of physical abuse at the moment. Verbal abuse is way more spread and its subtle, so its a harder situation to dissect.
I think if education helps 6-8 percent of the females in Pakistan, its worthwile to investigate education as a means of empowering women. Don’t you think?
By the way, probably the percent of physical abuse in Pakistan alone is higher than 6-8 percent.