Re: Desi larkian need to…
so are these girls in abusive situations that they dont have the guts to get out of? Are they being mistreated?
Because if you’re talking about the typical griping that goes on between a girl and her husband/in-laws, that’s normal. I would face that nonsense to preserve a good family life if I had to. I’d speak out about it, but that’s my approach. I think in this thread we’re talking about really extreme situations. Like domestic abuse (which unlike what ghulail says, is the same thing as domestic violence 
) and verbal abuse.
I cannot for one second believe that these girls are accepting it if their husbands are putting them down every day. And if they’re not doing anything about it now, then they most likely will later on.
And like I said, there will be girls who will get educated and still not have the spine to stick up for themselves. things get complicated especially when kids are involved, and choices are tough to make. Leaving is a hard decision and its the last resort. We’re not saying that education should lead a girl to leave the moment things get bad. She should actually have the guts to stay and try to fix things and make things better.
But in MOST cases, I think having an education helps. Like Sadiyah says, what does a girl do when her husband dies? How will she feed her kids. I’m telling you, I have a bachelors and the jobs I can find are pretty much all garbage and stuff I’d only do on a temporary basis. You want to have a comfy middle-class lifestyle? Right - open up a business (which requires that entrepreneurship talent which not everyone has), or go to professional school. Or just work long hours and save every penny of it. Which is darn hard to do when you’re a single mom.
In today’s societies, an education is so necessary, its not even funny. I dont really think many people have the luxury of not having an education anymore. Things are just way easier if you have one. Granted , to get thru a bad marriage or spouse death or whatever requires a lot of bravery too. Some of that will come from educational experience - some of it from your own life experiences too.
Many med school girls I know have not really experienced life, sadly. They’re smart and great at memorizing, but that’s basically it. They’re not necessarily independent. Not because the education didn’t provide the opportunity. It did. They just never took it.