okay..so they can have the best of both worlds by having access to 2 cultures, all the facilities of the west, etc etc, and their own culture..but that is not what this post is about.
It is about how they want traditional advantages of what a kid growing up in Pakistan has, yet at the same time demand the advantages a kid growing up in the west has.
case in point..
chica I know, her folks are family friends with my folks, considers her parents backwards because they try to enforce some curfew on her and all, and these are not very strict parents but they do want some control..so she gets all mad at them and says, u are so backward this is not Pakistan, u can not control me etc etc. I am 24 now and parents here dont control their kids like this. U have to get out of the Pakistani mindset.
Shortly afterwards, she would ask them for money..and then be mad that she did not get as much as she wanted.
she was so abusive to her parents that one time, I had enough and said..hey you get a job, you get your own place, you do what young ppl here do, then you will have a little bit more of a point about your folks being too desi until then chill. Her dad chuckled..
thats just one example, but I have seen this again and again. The young nes will come up with excuses like, oh we cant move out, oh we are not allowed to do move on our own…whoa then, if u cant move out, and u dunn have the balls to fight that, howcome u have the balls to fight when and where u can go on your vacations and how long u can be out.
It's a desi parent conspiracy against the children born in the West. The parents make these children so much dpendent on themselves that those lakeer kay faqeer bichaaray can't even think of buying yogurt for the house without asking the parents.
Parents need to chill a little after a kid turns 21.
Anyone who s over 18 should get the hell out of the house and sto being a burden to your parents. College, get a job and live on your own. freeloaders..
and if you are going to be a freeloader, live with their rules under their roof.
None of this..daddy u are jahil FOB who does not realize that i have to go for spring break with my pals..btw daddy can I have $2K for my spring break :)
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some kids are really dependent on their parents, ive seen desi girls who can't make chai without asking their mums for help.
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mystical - i resent this comment. so what if some of us can't make chai...doesn't make us any less independent.
pir sahib - i agree, people do choose to act in ways that will be beneficial to them.
well, honestly, i'm very confused in life...cuz i really don't know where i belong. i'm not an ABCD, cuz i wasn't born here, but i did grow up here and i find it difficult to know where to draw the line between being westernized and desi. trying to live life on the middle road between two completely different cultures has not been easy...and i dont think it is easy for anyone. so i can totally see how the young people would be confused too and when it comes to teenagers doing things their way, or not respecting their parents...i don't think that has to do with WHERE you grew up...that has more to do with HOW you were raised!
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I had enough and said..hey you get a job, you get your own place, you do what young ppl here do, then you will have a little bit more of a point about your folks being too desi until then chill. Her dad chuckled..
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My dad says that every time I tell him you’re too strict and compare it to the attitude white parents have towards their kids.
I admit its messed up of us, we want the best of both worlds, we envy our white friends for their freedom but we don’t realise that white people may have a lot of freedom but they lack the love and care our parents give us.
Our parents care about us that’s why they bring us up as “laadla” but they are strict at the same time but we don’t see it that way maybe if they were a bit tougher on us like white parents making us do the housework for pocket money and make us pay rent after we’d turned 16 we’d be a bit more thankful.
