When you people hold dinner parties for families and friends what kind of foods do you include? We always hold it buffet style rice cooked with meat is always the main dish…we include two other salans chicken and meatball salan (koftay) naan, salads, and brb q chicken and chutney, it’s such a hassle yet it’s a tradition out here especially in San Francisco a party is not a party without these “main” dishes!!!
well I think all the stuff you have mentioned is generally what is served at most desi dinner parties. I've never thrown one myself but my parents usually have the same things as you with some variation of biryani and sometimes they cook that sweet rice too (sorry but I don't remember what its called). They also serve kebabs too.
For dessert - rasmallahi or kheer. Occasionally something like a trifle which I would usually make.
Food:
using vegtables is in vogue and chicken is considered out of fashion. Include Fish, and mutton is a nice touch. Rice e.g. biyani is a MUST. You can include pasta e.t.c.
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spit in everything you cook and serve the food in cutlery that has been dried using your old smelly underwear. Then u can feel better about your self :k:
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It depends on the crowd, but we try to do diff stuff, Thai sometimes, Italian sometimes, all grill menu..kababs, rack of lamb, grilled fish, shrimp etc.
Yeah we still do the traditional desi stuff, but always try to put a little diff twist to it each time.
The stuff usually gets eaten up..cuz just as tired you may get from making the same ols ame ol desi dinner party staple...people get tired of eating the same ol same ol desi party staple :)