Re: Desi Attitudes towards Daycare/Pre-School Programs
**So for these parents need be understand when these kids will dump them in an old house they must not be depressed. In desi mentality this is the problem for our kids we believe we are working for them. However when these kids will need to work for their own kids parents will give them a big big hard time with many emotional Blackmail techniques. ** Aur in Pakistan teen sal se bhi kam uamr ke bachon ko main school bhyj daiti hain:D kaim maon ko kehty suna Uff germion ki chution main bhi inhin koi summer school main dalon gi tang ker ke rakhty hain. So sabit howa aksar not in their love but for her own rest mothers and fathers have done that Tu is ko tasleem kerny main kiya harj hai:hmmm: Ke bhai chahey main ma hon 24 khabr geeri sirf mera farz nahi paisy le lo aur mery bachey sanbhal do:D
because these people are A grade ullu kay pathay.
no other reason.
I have not run into such situations
anyway here is one that takes the cake..
a dude and his wife were working hard, raising kids, had daughters in preschool...not even daycare or with baby sitter ..**they were supporting his family back home and sending money to his parents..dude's freeloader older brother who lived with the mother **puts them down and their kids down saying these people would have kids with bad moral characters because the kids are in preschool rather than being at home with mother and what type of mother leaves her daughters with blah blah blah..
nice eh? :)
*Aho ye case main ny bhi yahan dekha ke aik bandey ne apni baiti ko car le ker nahi di Pakistan main maan ko le di byti tu khud kama ker khareed ley gi man aur behan bhai in Pakistan ziada deserve kerty hain. MashaAllah Islam/Pakistan ka yehi tu financial system hai ke aik kamey aur baqi sarey khain. Maan bap 6 baitian peda ker ke aik larka ghareeb zaroor paida kerty hain ke woh kul kahndan kakhiyal kery ga aur bytion ki shadi kery ga. Ab mar khap jata hai bas auld aki platon paida ker key:D
Ab main muzo se hat nahi rahi magar ju situation aap ne biyan ki ke khaty bhi on ka hain aur phr cheed bhi osi thali main yeh super cruel hai. Magar chalan yehi hai hamrey han ka.
Apny peechy walon ke liey bachon ko day care main dalna koi aqalmandi nahi chalo banda kehy in ke future ki khatir ker raha hon tu koi bat bhi hai:D
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Why is there such a negative attitude towards daycare/childcare or toddler/pre-school programs? Regardless of if you work or don't, the general attitude is that if you put your child in any of the above-noted programs, you simply aren't a good parent. One of my friends who had her daughter in daycare from an early age, the girl's phuppi decided to brainwash the daughter when her mother wasn't around and told her that her mother hates her and doesn't want her around and that's why she 'dumped' her into daycare. The psychological affects of this kind of talk is so damaging, it's simply disturbing.
Why so much hate? More importantly, why do people who don't even have any kids feel the need to dictate what 'good parenting' is?
I have observed this so much and I don't understand how people handle hearing all sorts of putdowns.
ooooo because won't we all perish unless we criticize?
These days I have a ladies group trying to convince me join a homeschooling revolution. It must be great but I'm not comfortable with it...but now I'm being criticized for sending my daughters to public school where they will be associating with boys and learning curse words and using drugs by age 12. Yahhhhh.
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