I have never seen a dead body before and if i did it would probably be something i would be uncomfortable with…a friend of mine got murdered this year…just hearing about it made me uncomfortable…never the less seeing it…
Whilst for some of my family in Pakistan…these kind of things genuinely dont seem to affect them…its almost like its normal…they have desensitised to it and death to them isnt really an emotional issue…
I remember some Bosnian guy at my mosque that genuinely seemed to lack emotion at death…probs cos he was caught up in that war…
Now i dont know whether it is better being exposed to something and not having emotion for it…goes with my experience is good idea…OR…whether it is better not getting emotional over something as death…
Would you like to see death as something of an emotive instance or would you like to see it as something trivial?..
Not really...for doctors and such forth who see death day in...day out...it becomes a lot less of an issue than it is to the common man...
Your local hopital doctor who has seen 100s of people die is gonna react a lot less emotional than someone who has never seen a dead body before...
Thats the whole point of desensitisation...
I've seen dead bodies before at wakes/prefuneral. Ofcourse you feel emotional because it may be someone you knew or were close to the family. Feeling grief is a natural emotion. Even doctors feel it. Obviously they're not going to cry like a baby when one of their patients doesn't make it through an operation but they did the best they could. A doctor has usually been getting to know the family of the patient as well as the patient themselves. (S)He's been called in the middle of the night because of emergencies related to that patient. (S)He's been in the operating room for hours trying to save this person. So when a patient dies after all this you cannot seriously believe that the doctor is just, "Hohum, they're dead, so what."
I know the anguish that even a doctor feels when a person loses their life. It could be an elderly person with cancer or a young gang banger. What you're describing as desensitization is a way in which one has to distance themselves in order to not become emotionally involved. You couldn't cut someone open if all you keep thinking is, "Ew, blood, guts, ew, ew." The biggest compliment a surgeon can receive is, "You're a machine". Just work, focus, perfection.
But that type of desensitization doesn't mean that a doctor doesn't feel anything.
We have to remember that the body is just a shell and we all return to Allah. It's natural and good to feel emotion related to death. But we have to remember that death is a natural process and we can't be so attached to the world. We have to accept that death is inevitable.
In addition to that, lets say the doctor does get emotional about one of his/her patients dying. Do you think thats fair to their next patient, that is to have a doctor who is emotionally distressed take care of them? Would it not cloud the doctor's judgement in treating the next patient? And let's face it, it's impossible for a doctor to take time off to recover emotionally from the death of a patient. Sure they feel saddened by what happens to another individual but they must employ some self-defense mechanism to be able to go on and treat other patients w/o clouded judgement.
No i don’t think i would like to see it as something trivial, because in my eyes it will never be trivial…but i know wot u mean about some ppl and how they don’t “show” any emotions when someone they know dies…i remember watching a show in America about these soldiers and also young women who were rape victims, somewhere in Africa (perhaps the Congo) and they were like totally numb to death…they had seen it so much in their short lives that is was so ordinary to them…it was such a sad show, i remember having tears in my eyes just listening to their horrific stories :(…i haven’t experieced anybody close to me dying and so i know when unfortunately i will, that i will be very emotional and it might definately “show” to others…and i suppose ppl who have gone thru this several times in their life, they also feel just the same amounts of grief and depression but it may not be visible to others, as they probably grieve behind closed doors…life is precious, and when it is gone it is always a great loss and affects everyone, but in their own ways…